While it is thought to be negative to be considered a ABCD, the term seems to do more damage to the culture it is meant to protect. Instead of dealing with real personality traits such as hard-working, intelligent, or family-oriented, the term ABCD focuses on the trivial aspects of one's ethnicity. i.e. Music, Film, Dress.
OPINION- I'm certain if anyone, U.S. or abroad, were asked to describe the joys and hardships that come with being Indian, that he or she would not reach for movie stubs or cds. It seems so unfortunate that a nation, where so many struggle to succeed by any means, would create it's own special way to bring it's people down.
"Confused" refers to a hypothetical confusion regarding identity, having been born in America or lived there since childhood and been closer to American culture than their ancestor's native culture. The notion of this identity crises comes from differences in accent, dress, and etiquette between recent immigrants and American Born Indians.
Most modern day "American Born" Indians have very strong ties to India. They frequently visit friends and family in their ancestor's native land. They typically cherish their Indian heritage, and observe both American and Indian cultural traditions. The typical American Born Indian is fluent in speaking an Indian language in addition to English, and understands both the American cultural value system and the Indian cultural value system. Most integrate into American society easier than recent Indian immigrants.
This idea of the hypothetical confused identity is not unique to Indian Americans alone - Hostility toward British Asian]s (the term used for Indians and other South Asians raised and living in Britain) have dawned similar ideas of struggles.
See also desi