Traditionally, the ABCD has been known to have abandoned his roots, so to speak, refusing to watch Bollywood films, listen to Indian music, participate in Indian social functions, etc, as a previous definition states. He will even go so far as to pretend that he is areligious. Indeed, the "ABCD", somehow considers himself superior to native Indians (not Native Americans) or immigrant Indians simply for the fact that he (or she) was not born in the homeland. In their mind they are "American", whatever that means to them.
The truth of the matter, however, is that the "ABCDs" could not be farther from "American", as they often have no clue what it is to actually be "American". They have no sense of culture (their own, or "American"), history, or any awareness of the world beyond their own, which consists of hanging out with other ABCD's, who are equally proud to not have been born in the homeland. As the previous definition states, ABCD's rarely if ever hang out with non-desis, even though they may strive to someday. For all their hatred for everything desi, it is almost ironic that it is the desi who they exclusively hang out with, and probably wouldn't be able to survive without.
It is true that ABCD's are usually pre-med, following the urging of their parents. This is the mark of an ABCD - he/she tries to give the impression of being independent thinking as well as "American", but in the end just ends up choosing the medical (or related) career their Indian parents told them to since the age of 2 months.
As far as other things go like drinking habits, well the ABCD considers drinking alcohol a "cool" and "American" activity, and will readily engage in it. They often overdo it, and this is no surprise because they are known to try too hard to be "American" or "white". Their actions are quite humorous to an observing third party and perhaps they make bigger asses out of themselves than FOBs, who also have issues regarding their identity. They, too, act retarded when trying too hard to assimilate, but we will leave that discussion for another day.
In sum, the ABCD is uncomfortable in his own skin, cannot be himself, and generally suffers from an identity crisis. They are frauds who simply act rather than just living life and being themselves. They are caught up with everything in this world that is superficial. In this regard, they perhaps are bigger idiots than FOBs, who interestingly are the ABCD's main target for ridicule.
There are several other things worth noting about the ABCD. For example the female ABCD seems to think that rap/hip-hop music is the way and the only way to prove her "American-ness". Thus, she will brag to whoever listens that she is a huge fan of it. She will also go for the orange highlights in her hair, because the pure black thing is way too "desi" for her. She chooses to look like a Hispanic instead. To her, being Latino is apparently more "American". As for the desi male..well he will often try his hardest to act "gangsta" only to look like a complete and utter imbecile. But so long as he is chillin with other desi wannabe gangstas (aka wimp ass morons), what he doesn't know won't hurt him. Perhaps, though, if he ever looked in the mirror, he would realize that the short, spiked, and geled up hair (with the long, thin sideburns) on the dark brown skin looks utterly ridiculous.
The best advice that an ABCD, and likewise a FOB, can use is: "Just be yourself".
"Oh so you don't like samosas anymore is that it? Go choke on some pasta you damn ABCD."
Vikram, the ABCD, declared his disgust for anything related to being Indian. Unfortunately he was spotted several times at Indian grocery stores, and eventually ended up becomming a pharmacist.
While it is thought to be negative to be considered a ABCD, the term seems to do more damage to the culture it is meant to protect. Instead of dealing with real personality traits such as hard-working, intelligent, or family-oriented, the term ABCD focuses on the trivial aspects of one's ethnicity. i.e. Music, Film, Dress.
OPINION- I'm certain if anyone, U.S. or abroad, were asked to describe the joys and hardships that come with being Indian, that he or she would not reach for movie stubs or cds. It seems so unfortunate that a nation, where so many struggle to succeed by any means, would create it's own special way to bring it's people down.
"Confused" refers to a hypothetical confusion regarding identity, having been born in America or lived there since childhood and been closer to American culture than their ancestor's native culture. The notion of this identity crises comes from differences in accent, dress, and etiquette between recent immigrants and American Born Indians.
Most modern day "American Born" Indians have very strong ties to India. They frequently visit friends and family in their ancestor's native land. They typically cherish their Indian heritage, and observe both American and Indian cultural traditions. The typical American Born Indian is fluent in speaking an Indian language in addition to English, and understands both the American cultural value system and the Indian cultural value system. Most integrate into American society easier than recent Indian immigrants.
This idea of the hypothetical confused identity is not unique to Indian Americans alone - Hostility toward British Asian]s (the term used for Indians and other South Asians raised and living in Britain) have dawned similar ideas of struggles.
See also desi