A rendition of the term feminine. Loosely defined to mean an attractive young female. Sounds cute, as they are.
by Ashent May 10, 2006
Before I say anything I would like to say that definitions like this one, can be a very sensitive matter for some people. I am a queer woman myself, and this is what being a femme means to me. I hope that my point can come across well.
Mostly used to describe lesbians, a femme can be any person who identifies as a woman and likes girls. A femme embraces femininity. This could be in the way she presents herself, but it also means being a confident and independent woman. It has more meaning to it than appearances. Loving the color pink isn’t just a “girly” thing. Those stereotypes were made to make women seem soft, and because women don’t want to commit to that idea, they become hateful towards themselves, forcing themselves to reject the idea of being a confident woman, and have internal misogyny. Being femme is being assertive, but not conforming to those ideas. Also spelled fem, the stereotype of typically feminine wlw, are that in sexual relations they are typically submissive, “the bottom”, or “a pillow princess”. This is not true, an when you think about it, it is mysoginistic in the way that people see traditional feminine things as delicate and in a relationship, weak, as bottoms tend to be portrayed as. (being submissive does not mean you are weak, it is merely another harmful idea) Being femme doesn’t mean that you have to date a masculine woman or a butch either, most happy wlw couples do not conform to these ideas nor to the idea of one dominant and one submissive.
Mostly used to describe lesbians, a femme can be any person who identifies as a woman and likes girls. A femme embraces femininity. This could be in the way she presents herself, but it also means being a confident and independent woman. It has more meaning to it than appearances. Loving the color pink isn’t just a “girly” thing. Those stereotypes were made to make women seem soft, and because women don’t want to commit to that idea, they become hateful towards themselves, forcing themselves to reject the idea of being a confident woman, and have internal misogyny. Being femme is being assertive, but not conforming to those ideas. Also spelled fem, the stereotype of typically feminine wlw, are that in sexual relations they are typically submissive, “the bottom”, or “a pillow princess”. This is not true, an when you think about it, it is mysoginistic in the way that people see traditional feminine things as delicate and in a relationship, weak, as bottoms tend to be portrayed as. (being submissive does not mean you are weak, it is merely another harmful idea) Being femme doesn’t mean that you have to date a masculine woman or a butch either, most happy wlw couples do not conform to these ideas nor to the idea of one dominant and one submissive.
“I hooked up with Kassandra the other night, don’t be fooled by her femme looks, she’s a total top.”
by Vintage Violetta November 8, 2020
by super love May 29, 2003
As well as a traditionally femminine lesbian, femme can mean a man who is acting unmasculine or who is being a pussy. Kind of like ladyboy or girlie man. (see Airheads)
by jealousofmike November 20, 2005
A femme is a lesbian who subverts, conforms to and reclaims femininity for herself and other women exclusively. Contrary to popular beliefs, not all femmes are extremely feminine, wear makeup, have super long hair, etc. Femme is a lesbian exclusive term and the only requirement to be femme is to ba a lesbian and to subvert femininity for yourself and other women only!! Femmes arent useless, dainty and weak, we dont look straight and we dont do none of the work in a relationship!! Additionally, femmes dont have to date butches, femmes can date other femmes or non aligned lesbians! ♡
by peony femme July 11, 2019
by Tabatha April 25, 2005
(N.) In a lesbian relationship, the femme has the more passive mentality (in most cases).
A "femme" typically dresses more feminine, and enjoys the normal "girly" activities (ie. shopping, hanging out with girlfriends, cuddling).
A "femme" is stereotypically used to describe a feminine lesbian, also called a pillow princess.
A "femme" typically dresses more feminine, and enjoys the normal "girly" activities (ie. shopping, hanging out with girlfriends, cuddling).
A "femme" is stereotypically used to describe a feminine lesbian, also called a pillow princess.
by Lia' February 1, 2004