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A sponder (noun) is a social initiator who sends group invitations or group requests in order to organize an event.
Mary is definitely a sponder! Thanks to her, we all stay in touch!

Paul is the biggest sponder I know. By doing what he does, he makes things happen: dinner parties, football practices, mountain trips - you name it!

If there is a sponder in my neighborhood? Sure! Francis! Who's organizing bbq-parties every summer? Francis. Who's organizing the annual spring clean? Francis! Everyone should have someone as Francis in their lives. He sure make things happen!
Sponder by Rufus Hammersmith June 17, 2014
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An unintentional encounter between two beings where both gesture towards moving in the same direction at the same time, creating an awkwardness. May occur several times in a single confrontation.
Today I spondered in the hallway on the way to brunch.
Sponder by Dennis Scott September 2, 2003
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(v) To follow tangential ideas until the original thought was lost. Can be done alone or in a group setting.
Fred: ..and that's why Australia is shaped like a bear.
Erin: Ooh, wait what were we talking about.
Fred: I don't know I was spondering.
Sponder by Hopefulkiwi October 5, 2011
The realization that there aren't any main characters in the world and everyone has a complex life, thoughts, crushes, relatives, dreams and mind just as your own.

Essentially whilst you're the main character in your life, you're also a background character in someone else's.
The knowledge that both I and you reading this are actual people like the remaining 8 billion of us is making sonder hit me like a truck.
sonder by B O I B O I March 6, 2022

Spooder Man 

An ordinary spider, who when bitten by a radioactive human gained human-like attributes.
Spooder Man fights villains like Mooseterio and Octor Doctopus.
Spooder Man by ADEstudios February 3, 2020

Spodermen 

A spin off meme of Spider-Man usually used with bad grammar or other spin off meme's associated with crude comedy.
"Hey Spodermen u wante sme rice?"
"Sure wat knd?"
"Uncle Bens"
"Why u do dis?"
Spodermen by LurkyHD August 1, 2016
Sonder is the realization that everybody around you, even strangers, are living a life just as complex as yours. Sometimes your hurting so bad and you feel your the only one. But after all your hardships you start to realize that everybody is so unique and you aren't the only one. Everybody lives are so indescribably different and there is no way you will ever understand their lives. To sum it up you are realizing that your not the only one living with such chaos and complexity. All people lives are unique, strange, chaotic, and complex, just like yours. Your not alone.
I lay in bed so deep in my thoughts, the darkness was all around me while, slowly, the sonder started to kick in. I then realized that not only me, but all seven point fifty three billion people in this world which they are constantly living despite my personal lack of awareness of it.
sonder by _i_found_it_mom_ July 29, 2019
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