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Guide to relationships

The following is a guide to relationships; it is written by someone who has never had a complete relationship and is therefore considered to be potentially objective 'n stuff
Guide to relationships
Primary requirements for a happy relationship:

Love
Honesty
Respect
Trust
Faith

Without all five of the aforementioned prerequisites; at least one of the participents will never be truly happy.

The key to a successful relationship is communication. Open and honest communication ensures that there are no problems, no doubts. If you are in love with someone, you have nothing to hide from them or from yourself.

To be honest with others, you must first be honest with yourself.
You do know when you are making the wrong decision; what is the point of lying to yourself? You still know the truth - thats just silly.
It is too easy to talk yourself into the wrong choice; it is just as easy to make the right choice and it just gets easier.
Honesty requires very little brain power and instead of hurting the ones who love you; it makes them stronger.

A relationship must be balanced!
You are equals in every way
You both make the decisions, you both take responsibility
Its all about love; not money, not power, not intelligence - just love.
by luke warm October 18, 2008
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First Relationship Syndrome

First Relationship Syndrome (FRS): the first 'serious' and/or long-term relationship for at least one of the parties in a relationship, leading to constant preoccupation. In many instances this will be the sufferer's first sexual relationship, though this is not always the case.

Symptoms of FRS include:
- constantly discussing partner, or bringing up their name in conversations;
- insisting that they 'cannot be apart' or 'will be together forever';
- fears/paranoia/distrust/jealousy about partner's feelings/actions (though on the other hand sufferer may be totally oblivious to signs of deceit);
- insistence that any actions of the partner are without fault. Includes fierce justification or defensiveness;
- couples or sufferers distancing themselves negatively from social circles or activities. For example, opting to stay in rather than go out "like an old married couple";
- sufferers engaging in the activities/behaviors of their partner, despite never having expressed interest in these activities before;

Long-term FRS-based relationships may deteriorate with time, however both may feel as though they are under pressure to stay committed to the relationship. Either party may be directly responsible for this pressure, but it more commonly stems from a feeling of anxiety about being alone (since they have been together so long). This most commonly occurs in couples where both parties suffered from FRS simultaneously.
Jack has just started dating Jill. They are quite happy. Since Jack has never had a relationship that has lasted this long, nor been this intimate, he considers himself in love. Jack begins to discuss Jill at every opportunity. He neglects his friends in favour of spending time with Jill, and when he does spend time with his mates, it is mostly spent talking about Jill, and relating even the most random of subjects back to her.

Jack's friends and family recognise the First Relationship Syndrome immediately, and while trying to be supportive, they warn Jack about counting his chickens before they hatch. After all, he and Jill haven't been together that long.

Jack puts a lot of pressure on Jill, unintentionally. He likes to talk with her about their future - what they will do, where they will live etc. Both Jill and Jack have changed somewhat, since they were young when they first got together and now have different interests. However Jack insists to his friends that he and Jill will be together forever, even when they drift apart. He justifies this sudden wedge between them to his friends/family. He may even blame himself.

Jack eventually moves on, and in subsequent relationships is more relaxed and mature, after identifying that his feelings for Jill were mostly FRS.
by Will "Awesome" Burke November 26, 2010
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Relentless Optimist

A term that employs irrational joy and hope in near dire situations despite all definable logic. Usually those employing such feelings find that situations work out in the end by twisting their logic to fit their needs.

Usually those who are a Relentless Optimist, are stubborn, high energy, positive, and every so often annoying, but always eager to keep going and do what they feel is the right thing.
Despite not getting into NYU, the Relentless Optimist believed that he would go where was right for him.
by Relentless Optimist November 10, 2010
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Downgrading relationships

Leaving or otherwise cheating on your girl/guy/bootycall with a much less attractive/worthy person.

Having a mature loving person always there for you and dissing them for a young naive useless girl without a clue.

Leaving a guy with a job and his own place for a loser in jail or otherwise on probation living with his younger brother since his mother won't even take him in!
Did you see that fat nasty ass whore Danny got with and left his sexy baby mama for?! That dumbass is retarded!

Talk about downgrading relationships, that bitch is 3 times bigger then her!

Dam she went from house in the burbs, to a couch in the basement in no time!
by ODC28 August 23, 2011
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relaxterbate

It's my day off; I think I'm going to relaxterbate today.
by lilyofthemist March 28, 2004
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reliant k

Car made by Chrysler in the 1980's. Not to be confused with the band, Relient K.
She listened to Relient K while driving her Reliant K.
by C-Mills May 30, 2007
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