The act of selectively mourning the death of someone based on their political or ideological alignment, while ignoring or rationalizing the deaths of those outside one’s tribe. A form of emotional compartmentalization that reveals unconscious bias in expressions of empathy.
When the invited speaker was killed, the campus held vigils and posted tributes. But when a student protester died last year, barely anyone mentioned it. That’s grief gating—mourning filtered through ideological lenses.
by Briton Phillip September 11, 2025
Get the Grief Gating mug.When you and your significant other hide your queerness from others. Not like queerbaiting at all, instead it’s acting straight instead of queer.
To gate-keep one’s queerness from others.
To gate-keep one’s queerness from others.
by lost thinker December 14, 2025
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When you and your significant other hide your queerness from others. Not like queerbaiting at all, instead it’s acting straight instead of queer.
To gate-keep one’s queerness from others.
To gate-keep one’s queerness from others.
by lost thinker December 14, 2025
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by Ryan's Mom's Mom May 15, 2015
Get the I have a goat in my garden. mug.That weirdly nostalgic, soft-crush vibe you get from someone who isn’t family but feels like they could be.
Like a cute neighbor boy, a distant family friend, or that one guy who visited your aunt’s house when you were a kid and made your stomach flip for reasons you didn't understand yet.
It’s not about sexual attraction only — it’s about vibe: warm, familiar, boy-next-door-ish, but slightly forbidden in that “he's cute but I shouldn’t” way.
Ryan Gosling has primo gatinho energy. So does that friend-of-a-friend who smells like soap and wears flip-flops indoors.
(aka: hot cousin next door energy)
Like a cute neighbor boy, a distant family friend, or that one guy who visited your aunt’s house when you were a kid and made your stomach flip for reasons you didn't understand yet.
It’s not about sexual attraction only — it’s about vibe: warm, familiar, boy-next-door-ish, but slightly forbidden in that “he's cute but I shouldn’t” way.
Ryan Gosling has primo gatinho energy. So does that friend-of-a-friend who smells like soap and wears flip-flops indoors.
(aka: hot cousin next door energy)
— “You ever look at someone and just feel that energia de primo gatinho?”
— “Yeah, energia de primo gatinho is real. Like… he feels like he could be my hot cousin who hugs too long at family events.”
— “Yeah, energia de primo gatinho is real. Like… he feels like he could be my hot cousin who hugs too long at family events.”
by Matt colaça May 13, 2025
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