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carrot and the stick

A way to describe enticement or promised rewards without satisfaction as a way to get to some useful point or solution.

Derived from the use of a carrot on string supported by a stick tied to the neck which is hanging a few inches in front of horse, donkey or mule. This is a way to entice the animal forward. The animal never actually gets to eat the carrot.

Implies that the animal, person or country is not too smart and ruled by base instincts or political expediency.

Often used incorrectly to describe enticement (the carrot) from the front and threats from the rear (the stick, for beating). Usually in a political context
Correct usage but less commonly seen in the media.

The USA is using the carrot and stick approach to nuclear disarmament with North Korea, promising food, fuel and trade in exchange for closing down the nuclear weapons plants. The North Koreans have complied but the USA has not delivered the promised goods.

Incorrect usage but quite common in the media.

Obama is using the carrot and the stick approach with Israel, promising them new F-14 aircraft if they sit down at the table with the Palestinians and discuss a two state solution to the conflict and threatening them with a cut off of military aid if they do not negotiate in good faith.

Behind the Stick

To tend bar; to be working as a bartender in an establishment.
Cliff: "Is Sam bartending tonight?"

Norm: "Nope. Tonight Woody is behind the stick."
Behind the Stick by Mdamascus April 9, 2012

Butter the stick

Butter the stick, and act of doing something kind; doing something for someone else; being generous; doing something just to be nice and not asking something in return
I saw a dog at the shelter and decided to butter the stick, and adopt it; there was a homeless man on the road with his wife and I decided to butter the stick (give him money)
Butter the stick by Katy Barothness November 15, 2017

Pull the stick out of your ass 

It means that the target is in a bad mood or in unnecessary distress, and you are implying this with the notion of them having a stick in their anal cavity, which, of course, is very painful and would definately cause a rather pissy mood. It's a way of telling them to STFU. However, this phrase is not recommended around people who constantly make Yo Mama jokes. A similar thing to say would be telling them this with the Sandy Vagina phrase.
Guy 1: Dude, I have so much damn homework I'm gonna tear someone's freakin eyes out! Aaarrgh! *throws nearby freshman out a window*
Guy 2: Dude pull the stick out of your ass!

Give 'em the stick

Phrase used to lull a person into a false sense of attaining a desired thing and then having it taken away before the person takes possession.
*A kid is laying flat on broken ice and his comrades are looking for a way to help him. A grizzly old man, whose land the children are trespassing on pipes in with his advice:

"Alright, give 'em the stick."

Kids lean out to extend the stick to the wayward lad.

"DON'T GIVE 'EM THE STICK!!!"

The kid drowns.

*Fensler Films - G.I. Joe P.S.A
Give 'em the stick by BrandoniusRex September 15, 2007

bitch end of the stick 

Noun
When you get screwed, Usally applyed to situations in which there are two options and you get the shitter of the two.
Why do I get bitch end of the stick?