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Grey Gardens Syndrome

A daughter who is over 40 and still living in the fantasy of her wealthy childhood. Her primary relationship is with her mother. The daughter gives up having a family of her own so that she can serve her mother's fantasy.

The daughter is somewhat attractive to men and therefore believes that if she just keeps trying a rich man will come into her life and bring her and her mother back to the wealth to which their birth right entitles them.
Based on the film "Grey Gardens" originally a documentary and then made into a Broadway musical in 2006, and then into an HBO movie in 2009 with Drew Barrymore.

The film depects the lives of Big Edie and Little Edie Bouvier Beale. They were the aunt and first cousin of Jacqueline Bouvier Kennedy Onassis. The reclusive socialite mother and daughter lived in a once fabulous estate in the wealthy enclave of East hampton, NY. They remained in the house even after it became decrepit, infested with raccoons and freezing cold. But they stubbornly held out. In 1972 Jacqueline Onassis and he sister Lee Radziwill provided the funds to stabilize the house.

Many mother-daughter relationship exhibits "Grey Gardens Syndrome".

Little Edie Beale refused to "settle". And in that spirit many women over 40, have refused to settle for less than they imagined they would have when they, as priviledged little girls, imagined their future. So until the right man comes along, to provide for her and her mother, she will not start a family of her own.

The daughter reasonably attractive, but believing in her destiny, will inform men that they will be obligated to accept the primacy of the mother-daughter relationship and to keep them in the wealth to which they are entitled.

Is it the mother's selfishness in preventing her daughter from starting a family of her own?

But, as in Grey Gardens, the daughter voluntarily submitted. They both want to live in the past, and not settle. They both choose to be reclusive unless the outside world will meet their demands.

Often, other wealthy families will find them interesting or charming dinner guests. Thus feeding their belief that they still belong to an exclusive club, and that they should stubbornly stick to their expectations. It is a lazy expectation because they do not work to make it happen, but instead expect someone to come along and provide for them.

Another aspect: The father was a good provider, and both parents were very good looking, so they presented a nice picture, rich, good looking and living in a beautiful house. But the personal relationship among the husband and wife was not there. So the mother taught her daughter that the mother-daughter bond is primary and that men are brought in only to support us.

There seems to be an expectation of eternal youth in the mother's logic. Her daughter, no matter how old she gets, is still young enough to attract a rich man, and make it all happen.

The literary theme, of a parent not letting his or her child leave the nest, is also examined in many Arthur Miller plays like "All My Sons" and "A View From the Bridge".
by HotSummer1968 September 21, 2009
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Garrens

Hawaiian slang, short for "guarantee".
Person 1: Waves are pretty big today on the eastside, we go beach??
Person 2: Garrens brah.
Person 1: Shoots.
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trinity gardens

A Hard, Gangsterous Hood Not Too Far From 5th Ward. Located On The Northside Of Houston, Texas. Also Has A Dance Called "Trinity Garden Drop".
Man We Went To This Block Party In Trinity Gardens It Was Off The Chain.
by Trinity Gardens December 4, 2007
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garven

1)A person from Northwest Territories who leaves clothes behind when going on holidays.

2)A person who pretends to win the lottery and tells their friends they won to only tell them April fool's.

3)A person who writes false press releases only to have the company contact them over it.
You are such a garven for doing that.
by Bev-Northof60 November 10, 2008
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recession gardens

Backyard, urban gardens planted to squeeze every penny out of a food budget.
"People's home grocery budget got absolutely shredded and now we've seen just this dramatic increase in the demand for our vegetable seeds. We're selling out," said George Ball, CEO of Burpee Seeds, the largest mail-order seed company in the U.S. "I've never seen anything like it."

Gardening advocates have dubbed the newly planted tracts "recession gardens" and hope to shape the interest into a movement similar to the victory gardens of World War II. Those gardens, modeled after a White House patch planted by Eleanor Roosevelt in 1943, were intended to inspire self- sufficiency, and at their peak supplied 40 percent of the nation's fresh produce, said Roger Doiron, founding director of Kitchen Gardeners International.
http://www.commondreams.org/headline/2009/03/16-6
by Applied Research March 27, 2009
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Stateway Gardens

1.All the windows are boarded up at stateway gardens

2. Dont go into Stateway or you'll get your ass shot.
by Gganster31 March 28, 2005
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pulling a busch gardens

The act of piling more people than is legal (or comfortable) into a car in order to transport said people to a certain destination. It originated with the transport of 7 passengers in a 6-passenger minivan to Busch Gardens. This is most common in minivans with 2 seats in the middle row and 3 seats in the back. One person has to sit in between the seats in the middle row. Resourceful passengers in the past have found ways to get comfortable and even fall asleep while sitting on "The Floor" and this seat is switched out every time the vehicle stops. Whoever sits on "The Floor" is entirely responisble for being aware of whenever police cars are nearby so that they can duck and the others can cover them up.
Everyone in the back has to sit on "The Floor" at some point but whoever has shotgun never has to sit on "The Floor" so that's the best spot to be.
Person 1: How are all of us getting to (insert location here) in your 4-passenger car?
Person 2: It's okay, we're pulling a Busch Gardens.
Person 1: Oh. Sweet.
by PLAH January 5, 2006
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