When a man attempts to get a girlfriend (or boyfriend) by first being their friend, then hoping to transition that to being their boyfriend. After they've been their friend for a while with no sexual tension being built up, he asks her out, with her saying something along the lines of "I don't think of you that way and I don't want to jeopardize what we have."
The people who've experienced this are almost-exclusively men who don't have many social skills, especially with romance. Many of them have had few (if any) sexual partners, very little self-esteem, not much confidence, a lot of anxiety, and possibly some minor depression (if not severe), which is WHY they have so few social skills.
It's only made worse by the fact that a LOT of women who say "a guy said I friend-zoned him" don't really try to HELP him. Saying you're not interested is one thing, but GENUINELY trying to understand why he's so hurt by that and figuring out ways to help him get a girlfriend is another.
The unspoken aspect of this is that this usually occurs when a modest-looking man tries to attract a more-attractive woman using their personality, since they wouldn't be able to if they just used their looks.
To be fair, women DO put higher importance on personality than men do, and it usually DOES overpower looks in importance, so there's nothing wrong with a guy trying to get a more-attractive woman using his personality, but application of that is very complex.
The people who've experienced this are almost-exclusively men who don't have many social skills, especially with romance. Many of them have had few (if any) sexual partners, very little self-esteem, not much confidence, a lot of anxiety, and possibly some minor depression (if not severe), which is WHY they have so few social skills.
It's only made worse by the fact that a LOT of women who say "a guy said I friend-zoned him" don't really try to HELP him. Saying you're not interested is one thing, but GENUINELY trying to understand why he's so hurt by that and figuring out ways to help him get a girlfriend is another.
The unspoken aspect of this is that this usually occurs when a modest-looking man tries to attract a more-attractive woman using their personality, since they wouldn't be able to if they just used their looks.
To be fair, women DO put higher importance on personality than men do, and it usually DOES overpower looks in importance, so there's nothing wrong with a guy trying to get a more-attractive woman using his personality, but application of that is very complex.
Joshua: "Is that *band shirt/book/food/anything like that*? *Band/book/food/whatever's being referenced* is amazing! I love *band/book/food/etc.*!"
Emmi: "I know, right? You're the first person I've seen get so animated about it!"
***Joshua hasn't said anything that would make Emmi think he finds her attractive-- like being specific about something he likes about her face or body or saying how cute she is in a clever way, or even saying outright that she's sexy-- and hasn't for months.***
Joshua: "So, Ems... I know you've been talking a lot about how lonely you've been over the last few months and how bored you are on the weekends now cuz' you've got nothing to do, so would you like to go on a date with me this Saturday?"
Emmi: "Oooh... Wow... Josh, look, I love you and your one of my besties, and I mean we have so much in common, but I just... I really don't think I can do that. I'm sorry. I don't think that would be a good idea."
Joshua: "... Did you just fucking friend zone me?"
Emmi: "I know, right? You're the first person I've seen get so animated about it!"
***Joshua hasn't said anything that would make Emmi think he finds her attractive-- like being specific about something he likes about her face or body or saying how cute she is in a clever way, or even saying outright that she's sexy-- and hasn't for months.***
Joshua: "So, Ems... I know you've been talking a lot about how lonely you've been over the last few months and how bored you are on the weekends now cuz' you've got nothing to do, so would you like to go on a date with me this Saturday?"
Emmi: "Oooh... Wow... Josh, look, I love you and your one of my besties, and I mean we have so much in common, but I just... I really don't think I can do that. I'm sorry. I don't think that would be a good idea."
Joshua: "... Did you just fucking friend zone me?"
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by Nosorrybestfriend December 3, 2016
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Get the Friend zone mug.When A Guy/Girl likes you but decides asking you out would be awkward if you said no and decided to just stay friends with you.
Sofia: So you like Karl?
Lily: Yeah I do, why?
Sofia: You should ask him out!
Lily: I don't think I will, were good friends and I want to stay friends instead of making things awkward.
Sofia: Oof I guess he got Reverse Friend Zoned.
Lily: Yeah I do, why?
Sofia: You should ask him out!
Lily: I don't think I will, were good friends and I want to stay friends instead of making things awkward.
Sofia: Oof I guess he got Reverse Friend Zoned.
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Sissi: Somewhere in the depths of friend zone Tartar where u thrown him after ripping his heart out.
Sissi: Somewhere in the depths of friend zone Tartar where u thrown him after ripping his heart out.
by The one with stars instead bra June 8, 2019
Get the Friend zone mug.A term used by women when they reject your romantic advancements. Both men and women can find themselves "friendzoned" due to the fact they did not make their original intentions known. Men and women can strictly be friends only under certain circumstances; ie: no attraction, childhood friends, both are in a relationship, etc. People that find themselves in the Friend Zone only have themselves to blame, make your intentions known at the very beginning or the other person will think you are only interested in a platonic friendship. Being the nice guy and never making a move will never work, and will always reserve yourself a comfortable purple loveless sofa in the Friend Zone.
From personal experience, being friends first does not work! Do not confuse being friends with being friendly! Let me clarify further, obviously if you treat the person like total utter crap and they have self worth they will not date you. If you treat the person like a sibling then they will immediately Friend Zone you to oblivion and beyond. Make your romantic intentions known as early as possible!
I will use an example of how I got friendzoned and handled the situation, NEVER put yourself in this situation in the first place! It's a horrible place to be in!
From personal experience, being friends first does not work! Do not confuse being friends with being friendly! Let me clarify further, obviously if you treat the person like total utter crap and they have self worth they will not date you. If you treat the person like a sibling then they will immediately Friend Zone you to oblivion and beyond. Make your romantic intentions known as early as possible!
I will use an example of how I got friendzoned and handled the situation, NEVER put yourself in this situation in the first place! It's a horrible place to be in!
Chris: I want to be more than friends
Katie: If you told me this months ago, it would have been different. But I only see you as a friend
Chris: Fuck the Friend Zone
Chris: Get back to me once you change your mind
Katie: If you told me this months ago, it would have been different. But I only see you as a friend
Chris: Fuck the Friend Zone
Chris: Get back to me once you change your mind
by guywithtaste September 8, 2016
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