short for
Big Dick Energy (from Vox): the complete security of not needing other people’s benchmarks — wealth,
intelligence, beauty, or a BD — to know one’s own worth.
Any suspicion of tryhard vibes kills BDE, as does the kind of cockiness that speaks of insecurity: the true BDE-haver is respectful to those around them, but with swagger. Someone with BDE will never text an
unsolicited dick pic, because it would simply never occur to them.