Although almost noone can agree on a single definition of love, most agree that it plays a significant role on their psychological well-being (Te Taha Hinengaro) and our Te Whare Tapa Whā.
Love is not an emotion nor a feeling, but a chemical reaction driven by extreme feelings of respect, euphoric attraction and willingness to put another's happiness and well-being above your own.
Love and lust have very similar characteristics, but unlike lust, love is long lasting.
Love is not an emotion nor a feeling, but a chemical reaction driven by extreme feelings of respect, euphoric attraction and willingness to put another's happiness and well-being above your own.
Love and lust have very similar characteristics, but unlike lust, love is long lasting.
Other definitions are mostlikely emotionally charged and bear no logical or rational reasoning. They have no correlation to the bigger picture; that is: love for family members or even pets, but are purely directed at one's partner.
However with your partner love can in some cases give you a lust-like feeling after years of being in a close relationship.
Love is so nebulous to many, even the famous band 'Foreigner' wrote a song titled "I want to know what love is".
However with your partner love can in some cases give you a lust-like feeling after years of being in a close relationship.
Love is so nebulous to many, even the famous band 'Foreigner' wrote a song titled "I want to know what love is".
by _The Secret_ October 27, 2019
Get the Love mug.Munchausen syndrome by proxy (MSP) -- or Munchausen by proxy -- is a psychological disorder marked by attention-seeking behavior by a caregiver through those who are in their care. ... The person with MSP gains attention by seeking medical help for exaggerated or made-up symptoms of a child in his or her care.
The person with MSP does not seem to be motivated by a desire for any type of material gain. While health care providers are often unable to identify the specific cause of the child's illness, they may not suspect the mother or caregiver of doing anything to harm the child. In fact the caregiver often appears to be very loving and caring and extremely distraught over her/his child's illness.
by _The Secret_ September 16, 2019
Get the MSP mug.There are 5 Love Languages.
More than one love language can apply to any one person.
Understanding is the key to forming a long lasting bond and relationship.
Words of affirmation – using words to build up the other person. “Your eyebrows look great today".
Gifts – a gift says, “she thinks of me".
Acts of Service – Doing something for your spouse that you know they would
like. Cooking a meal, washing dishes, vacuuming floors, are all acts of service.
Quality time – by which I mean, giving your spouse your undivided attention.
Taking a walk together or sitting on the couch with the TV off – talking and
listening.
Physical touch – holding hands, hugging, kissing, sexual intercourse, are all expressions of love.
More than one love language can apply to any one person.
Understanding is the key to forming a long lasting bond and relationship.
Words of affirmation – using words to build up the other person. “Your eyebrows look great today".
Gifts – a gift says, “she thinks of me".
Acts of Service – Doing something for your spouse that you know they would
like. Cooking a meal, washing dishes, vacuuming floors, are all acts of service.
Quality time – by which I mean, giving your spouse your undivided attention.
Taking a walk together or sitting on the couch with the TV off – talking and
listening.
Physical touch – holding hands, hugging, kissing, sexual intercourse, are all expressions of love.
by _The Secret_ February 25, 2020
Get the Love Language mug.“The one that got away” is an ex who has an exalted place among your past loves. She is the one you focus about. This ex was a good person, your breakup didn't change your opinion about this. She's someone who deserves love in their lives, someone another person would be lucky to be with.
by _The Secret_ November 13, 2019
Get the The one that got away mug.The person you want in your life forever, someone you built a strong connection with through an extremely rough time. You grew together, and although you had hard times together you both learnt and grew stronger as people.
You said some hurtful things to her/him, but none of it you meant. You'd made false allegations to hurt her/him without thinking of how that might affect them. It most likely started out of pain from something they did early on in the relationship. Your frustration has turned to some hurtful things.
You came in to each others lives for a reason, a good reason.
I want you in my life forever. There is so much more to you and I. We no longer need to hurt each other, a kiss and a cuddle is a lot easier. Try it.
Crony I am prepared to be vulnerable for you.
You came in to each others lives for a reason, a good reason.
I want you in my life forever. There is so much more to you and I. We no longer need to hurt each other, a kiss and a cuddle is a lot easier. Try it.
Crony I am prepared to be vulnerable for you.
by _The Secret_ March 25, 2020
Get the Crony mug.We know chemistry when we feel it with another person, but we don't always know why we're drawn to one person over another. Is it just a cascade of neurotransmitters and hormones conspiring to rush you toward reproduction? Is it attraction borne of a set of shared values? Or is it bonding over specific experiences that create intimacy?
It's probably a combination of all three, plus ineffable qualities that even matchmaking services can't perfectly nail down.
With few exceptions, behavior has features of both genetics and history. It's nature and nurture.
Scientists who study attraction take into consideration everything from genetics, psychology, and family history to traumas, which have been shown to impact a person's ability to bond or feel desire.
Love can be broken down into three distinct stages: lust, attraction, and attachment. In each stage, your body chemistry behaves differently. It turns out that "chemistry" is, at least in part, actual chemistry. Biochemistry, specifically.
In the lust and attraction phases, your body is directing the show, as people can feel desire without knowing anything personal about the object of that desire. Lust, is nothing more than the existence of a sex drive, or the craving for sexual gratification. It's a sensation driven by estrogens and androgens, the female and male sex hormones, based in the biological drive to reproduce.
It's probably a combination of all three, plus ineffable qualities that even matchmaking services can't perfectly nail down.
With few exceptions, behavior has features of both genetics and history. It's nature and nurture.
Scientists who study attraction take into consideration everything from genetics, psychology, and family history to traumas, which have been shown to impact a person's ability to bond or feel desire.
Love can be broken down into three distinct stages: lust, attraction, and attachment. In each stage, your body chemistry behaves differently. It turns out that "chemistry" is, at least in part, actual chemistry. Biochemistry, specifically.
In the lust and attraction phases, your body is directing the show, as people can feel desire without knowing anything personal about the object of that desire. Lust, is nothing more than the existence of a sex drive, or the craving for sexual gratification. It's a sensation driven by estrogens and androgens, the female and male sex hormones, based in the biological drive to reproduce.
Attraction may be influenced less than lust by physiological factors -the appeal of someone's features, or the way they make you laugh—but your body is still calling the shots at this stage, pumping you full of the hormones cortisol, adrenaline, and dopamine, effecting your brain in a way that's like the way illicit substances do.
The attachment phase is characterized by increases in oxytocin and vasopressin; these hormones are thought to promote bonding and positive behaviors to sustain connections over time in order to fulfill parental duties.
Additionally, while oxytocin has long gotten the credit for being the love hormone, scientists dont use oxytocin freely anymore, because it has broader functions than simply bonding. It also plays a role in the contraction of the uterus to stimulate birth, instigating lactation, and sexual arousal; low levels have been linked to autism spectrum disorders.
Chemistry has been linked to a charmingly named hormone known as kisspeptin. Produced in the hypothalamus, kisspeptin plays a role in the onset of puberty, and may increase libido, regulate the gonadal steroids that fuel the sex drive, and help the body maintain pregnancy. There is a lot more study about the role kisspeptin plays in attraction.
Chemistry predicts nothing but chemistry. This is because chemistry can make people blind to actual incompatibilities or warning signs. A spark can build based on what you have in common. You can grow into love, but you grow out of lust.
The attachment phase is characterized by increases in oxytocin and vasopressin; these hormones are thought to promote bonding and positive behaviors to sustain connections over time in order to fulfill parental duties.
Additionally, while oxytocin has long gotten the credit for being the love hormone, scientists dont use oxytocin freely anymore, because it has broader functions than simply bonding. It also plays a role in the contraction of the uterus to stimulate birth, instigating lactation, and sexual arousal; low levels have been linked to autism spectrum disorders.
Chemistry has been linked to a charmingly named hormone known as kisspeptin. Produced in the hypothalamus, kisspeptin plays a role in the onset of puberty, and may increase libido, regulate the gonadal steroids that fuel the sex drive, and help the body maintain pregnancy. There is a lot more study about the role kisspeptin plays in attraction.
Chemistry predicts nothing but chemistry. This is because chemistry can make people blind to actual incompatibilities or warning signs. A spark can build based on what you have in common. You can grow into love, but you grow out of lust.
by _The Secret_ February 25, 2020
Get the Chemistry mug.Guy: Have you cheated?
Girl: ask no questions hear no lies
Guy: wtf, so you have?
Girl: (says nothing)
Girl: I'm not even sorry
Guy: **heart breaks** again
Girl: ask no questions hear no lies
Guy: wtf, so you have?
Girl: (says nothing)
Girl: I'm not even sorry
Guy: **heart breaks** again
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