Definitions by Manipulationship101
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"Gaslighting lives in another dimension of cruelty - beyond lies or manipulation.
Unlike ordinary lies, gaslighting denies what's undeniably true - like claiming a photo you're staring at on their phone doesn't exist. It's a tactic designed to destabilize your ability to use logic, all while portraying themselves as being concerned or afraid for your well-being, which is their way of making you rely on them to tell you what's real."
Unlike ordinary lies, gaslighting denies what's undeniably true - like claiming a photo you're staring at on their phone doesn't exist. It's a tactic designed to destabilize your ability to use logic, all while portraying themselves as being concerned or afraid for your well-being, which is their way of making you rely on them to tell you what's real."
z.5x509dnrcabuseqte by Manipulationship101 July 15, 2025
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Quote from a narc survivor:
"
The covert narc presents themselves as a normal, rational person.
"Nice guy", or girl - there is no overt grandiosity
So to the outside strangers,and to us in the beginning
there are no outward signs that this person is not like us
So the first danger is assuming that this person is like us,
thinks like us,operates like we do.
Then,once the lovebombing & the devaluations begin,
they start with the passive-agressive behaviour,the gaslighting,
the blameshifting,word-salad,sulking,silent treatments
& other numbers of crazy-making behaviours
that leave us confused.
All of these abuses are done in private.
No-one else can see them,to the general public
& surrounding friends & family,
with the exception of those living in the home.
These remain,unseen.
So you don't know what is wrong -what has changed?
Why did the lovebombing stop, why are they treating you this way?
They tell you,,,"it is YOUR fault."
"
End of quote
"
The covert narc presents themselves as a normal, rational person.
"Nice guy", or girl - there is no overt grandiosity
So to the outside strangers,and to us in the beginning
there are no outward signs that this person is not like us
So the first danger is assuming that this person is like us,
thinks like us,operates like we do.
Then,once the lovebombing & the devaluations begin,
they start with the passive-agressive behaviour,the gaslighting,
the blameshifting,word-salad,sulking,silent treatments
& other numbers of crazy-making behaviours
that leave us confused.
All of these abuses are done in private.
No-one else can see them,to the general public
& surrounding friends & family,
with the exception of those living in the home.
These remain,unseen.
So you don't know what is wrong -what has changed?
Why did the lovebombing stop, why are they treating you this way?
They tell you,,,"it is YOUR fault."
"
End of quote
Paraphrasing:
Here is where the danger comes in:
Most self-help books tell you it's a communication problem.
This is a faulty premise - you might as well go up to a brick wall...
and bang your head against it.
You are NOT having a communication problem.
The narc is simply not interested in communicating with you.
You are not an equal,in their eyes.
You are a person to exert power & control over.
But that is their little secret to the outside world,
and its been their little secret to you -
you did not know that when you got into that relationship.
x.104narcquote
Here is where the danger comes in:
Most self-help books tell you it's a communication problem.
This is a faulty premise - you might as well go up to a brick wall...
and bang your head against it.
You are NOT having a communication problem.
The narc is simply not interested in communicating with you.
You are not an equal,in their eyes.
You are a person to exert power & control over.
But that is their little secret to the outside world,
and its been their little secret to you -
you did not know that when you got into that relationship.
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x.104narcquote by Manipulationship101 July 8, 2025
C.N.A.T.
Common. Narcissistic. Abuse. Techniques.:
Eroding confidence: Gaslighting or belittling 2 make the victim doubt their worth&feel unworthy of support
Physical Isolation: Preventing individual travel or relocating =tricking their victim 2 work from home etc
Framing isolation as "protection": Claiming its for the victims safety or out of "love" (its not love,its 4 control)
Financial restrictions: Limiting access 2 money or opportunities = making the victim reliant on the abuser
Enabling: Supporting bad habits such as addiction of: Drugs,alcohol,video games,hoarding.
Monopolizing time: Demanding constant attention/scheduling activities 2 prevent social interactions
Sabotaging relationships: Creating conflicts or spreading lies 2 alienate the victim from friends&family
Controlling Communication: Limiting phone/internet/social media access&monitoring interactions
Fear: Threatening consequences if the victim tries to seek help or interacts "too much" with others
Eroding confidence: Gaslighting or belittling 2 make the victim doubt their worth&feel unworthy of support
Physical Isolation: Preventing individual travel or relocating =tricking their victim 2 work from home etc
Framing isolation as "protection": Claiming its for the victims safety or out of "love" (its not love,its 4 control)
Financial restrictions: Limiting access 2 money or opportunities = making the victim reliant on the abuser
Enabling: Supporting bad habits such as addiction of: Drugs,alcohol,video games,hoarding.
Monopolizing time: Demanding constant attention/scheduling activities 2 prevent social interactions
Sabotaging relationships: Creating conflicts or spreading lies 2 alienate the victim from friends&family
Controlling Communication: Limiting phone/internet/social media access&monitoring interactions
Fear: Threatening consequences if the victim tries to seek help or interacts "too much" with others
C.N.A.T.
Learn their patterns. Learn their techniques.
Research the "Cycle Of Abuse". Learn how to combat all of it 💯
@ beyondthebruise on TikTok is a great start(until tiktok gets banned) -if you have the option, research further.
If u dont have the option... RUN. Plan ahead & RUN = The Door(its open). Then 1 step after the other.
Every single person in ur situation has done the same.
Abuse is NOT love.
You are NOT alone.
You are STRONG & SMART.& most of all,u are CAPABLE!
Do not let ur abuser(coward) tell u otherwise- They lie. That is what they do best= Lie & manipulate.
Theyre masters of puppets 🎠They are imposters.
They are 110% wrong.
Every breath they take is a lie- for control.
Learn their patterns. Learn their techniques.
Research the "Cycle Of Abuse". Learn how to combat all of it 💯
@ beyondthebruise on TikTok is a great start(until tiktok gets banned) -if you have the option, research further.
If u dont have the option... RUN. Plan ahead & RUN = The Door(its open). Then 1 step after the other.
Every single person in ur situation has done the same.
Abuse is NOT love.
You are NOT alone.
You are STRONG & SMART.& most of all,u are CAPABLE!
Do not let ur abuser(coward) tell u otherwise- They lie. That is what they do best= Lie & manipulate.
Theyre masters of puppets 🎠They are imposters.
They are 110% wrong.
Every breath they take is a lie- for control.
C.N.A.T. by Manipulationship101 December 26, 2024