There are three types of loners:
1. A person who doesn't know how to connect with others, verbally, or physically, even though they may want to. This is either due to lack of skills, mental social deficiency, or anxiety. The causes of which are myriad.
2. A person who does know how to connect with others, but chooses not to because they view people as either victims or prey. A predator usually operates best alone in the human environment.
3. A person who knows how to connect with others, but others do not know how to reciprocate. This type of person is usually very gifted intellectually and they understand and even take for granted many concepts,social que's,and knowledge as being "common" and "understood." This accelerated comprehension is beyond the others ability to keep pace and scope, so they lose interest. The "loner" here is not attempting to be offputting, they are simple comprehending the world through their mind, as the other is through their mind. Neither is wrong, or even better. It is simply a matter of their being fewer highly intelligent people, therefore making it difficult for them to connect with others. This type of loner is the saddest, because they have so much to offer, but no one can hear them.
Example of 1. A quiet lady who comes into a bar alone, sits down and orders a drink. She allows others to talk to her, but doesn't know what, when or how to say what they want to express. Unclearness regarding the boundaries and potential reactions of the other is at the root of the silence.
Example of 2. A quiet male enters a bar and sits innocuously in the corner, with a low profile and makes no attempt to stand out in any way. They usually pick a strategically advantageous place to watch and listen to the goings on others. He will be seen regularly and will be known as very polite, quiet and easygoing. He identifies targets based on whatever is driving his predatory instinct. He then begins to work on a plan to carry out his attack. They are often the last person anyone would suspect, they have no friends, and they don't talk about themselves at all, beyond the cursory, which is why these types are so very difficult for law enforcement to catch.
Example 3. A man comes into a bar, he smiles and readily strikes up conversations with others. Within a few minutes the other begins to feel a sense of being "lost" in the conversation. There is a feeling of disconnect. Within a few more minutes the man is left to himself. This cycle will repeat itself unless he becomes intoxicated, then much of the intellect is short circuited and some connectivity can occur. This type of person can eventually become a type 1 loner because they are at a loss of exactly how to socially communicate more effectively, and so lose interest. Ironically this is due to the difficulty of it. A loose analogy would be how adult people lose interest in talking to children about adult topics and more often vice-versa. The IQ distance can be as great as a five year old talking to a twenty something, except everyone in this situation, everyone is an adult.
by eloopmas October 05, 2007
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Someone that likes being alone, and is happy with what they are. Often called freaks because the general population is too thinkheaded to understand the phrase "leave me the fuck alone"
He's such a loner, for some strange reason he doesn't want to have any friends.
by Broody January 29, 2004
someone who doesn't need other people around them to validate there own existence.
if i cared what they thought, i would talk to them to reinforce their concept of reality.
by Truth Amongst Lies January 02, 2005
There's 2 types of loners. The loser loner and the cool loner. Unfortunately throughout high school and life I fell into the first category not the second.

The one i always wished to be and looked up to was The cool loner, they're the one who does their own thing, dosen't really care what others think, rejects most people yet is looked up to and follows their own lead. Usually ends up popular in some way despite their aversion to popularity in general. They always have the 'cool' people approaching them wanting to be friends yet they prefer to do their own thing. Usually are hated or loved. This kind of person is usually miles ahead of the 'popular people'

Then there's guys like me.. The loser loner. The type of guy who dosen't have good social skills, No confidence and jealous traits. The one who never gets the girl, the money or the friends. The dumb guy who nobody notices. The one who feels invisible around women. The one who nobody wants to spend time with. Known as 'the boring guy', the 'friendless' guy, the invisible man. We have to act out to get attention. We arent lone wolves, we are dependent insecure people who are usally better friends with the teachers and tag-a-long. We were dealt a bad hand in life.
Being a loner isnt a bad thing.
by Sonni Vitale December 27, 2007
This is a person who is always on their own. They prefer their own company and do not make friends easily. They often find solace in books or the internet. They are alone
Why is she always on her own?, she's such a loner
by Natalie August 09, 2004
Basically, a person who likes being alone. Unlike the social attitude that says people who are alone are really unhappy inside, many loners are actually the happiest when they're alone. Rather than finding solace in friends and family, they find solace in things such as video games, Internet, books, etc.

But the main way political beliefs are inputted into people is through being social and associating one's self with others. So unfortunately, many loners tend to have radical beliefs and hold morals that greatly differ from their peers and even their own family. To put it simply, you can find a communist in a family of patriotic Americans or a conservative in a family of liberals.
Grandfather: Women's rights should be the main concern!

Father: Gay marriage should be allowed!

Son: Welfare should be abolished!
by BusinessMan May 01, 2005
A person that tends to enjoy their own company. They are very introversive(meaning they have a harder time making friends.). Though I wouldn't say they are that way because they are socially retard, but they are rather more comfortable being by themselves. With this being said. Loners tend to be the less stressed out over social issues, and tend to be able to solidify, and worry more on their real problems. Contrary to popular belief. Loners do make friends, but tend not to want to hang out in groups. If in a gorup they will just be quiet, and will only say something if they know the subject well enough. Being a loner is what everyone dreams of, but when seeing one. They usually get viewed in a negative light.
I've been a loner due to the fact that the pressures of being within a social discourse community is too vast, and very irritating. People get mad over the dumbest shit, and tend to worry over things that aren't real problems...Like surviving..... I have a few friends, and I pretty much know a lot of people that know me. Though I'm always by myself. I doubt its my fault, but I'm kinda lazy when it comes to trying to make friends anyway... :P
by lordblazer December 05, 2006
A person who actually has alot of self-confidence. They are able to do such things like go and see a movie or a concert alone and aren't concerned about being seen as a "loser" by their fellow human beings.

People are also loners because they prefer their own company and get tired of people asking "why are you so quiet" whenever you actually do mix at a group function. They aren't afraid of silence and don't feel the need to flap their lips with other people simply just to make noise because silences between people is for some reason taboo.

They are also generally calm passive type of people who don't make enemies and get along with everyone. Unfortunately our personality type also makes the best serial killers, we are calm, cool headed, and methodical.
The world needs loners, we aren't freaks, we are the quiet peaceful achievers in society while the loudmouths get the spotlight.

We can mix in groups when we want to but find it forced and unnatural. You'll find we actually have quite strong opinions on matters since we have alot of time to sit and think over issues
by shadey81 August 25, 2008
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