To be taken advantage of without realizing due to extreme kindness, to the point where when questioned, people are offended that one would even suggest such a thing. Word derived from "Ned Flanders" of the Simpsons who is "taken advantage of" by Homer Simpson due to his extreme kindness and love for fellow man.
To "borrow" something without the intent on giving it back any time soon. Then lying about the whereabouts of the "borrowed" item when questioned. "I lent him that video ages ago and now he's denying it. I've been flandered"
by Ten Bears April 27, 2012