Iam "I saw this TikTok video and the guy made a really good point about how care is used as a form of manipulation... I can't remember the guy's name... It's started with an 'N'... Like Nahtey... He looked Eastern Asian... Medium brown skin, straight medium-length black hair...Possibly Indian. But he said how you would be able to tell the difference between whether or not it was care or control is whether or not the only purpose the care serves is to make you more convenient for the people providing the care. And that's what my parents and the other people don't understand... It's like I'm in the desert hanging off a cliff and their solution is to piss on my face to keep me cool..."
by Hym Iam February 24, 2023

The belief that self improvement happens in a vacuum or begins and ends with oneself. As the opposite of collective care, selfish care symbolizes the hyper fixation of today's western society on individual efforts in regards to self improving and self care. Those individual efforts are often tied to capitalism and the self care industry, as well as colonialism.
iLiana Fokianaki explains in 'The Bureau of Care: Introductory Notes on the Care-less and Care-full':
"While depriving citizens of care, NAS narcissistic authoritarian statism nonetheless capitalizes on the individualist notion of care, widely promoted as “self-care” through an industry with billions in revenues. By ... taking care of oneself, contemporary subjectivities ... are tasked with the care of their overworked bodies, but are less and less interested in the well-being of bodies that are outside of the immediate realm of their family, class, workplace, city, country, and continent. They are further burdened with individual responsibility for their own care, since care has lost its character as a human right and has become a paid service. ".
Selfish care is the accumulation of influences from NAS on individual's belief systems about the notions of care. It represents the indoctrination of the capitalistic evolution of the care system, expressed through the associations with self care that tie it to a profit-driven industry.
iLiana Fokianaki explains in 'The Bureau of Care: Introductory Notes on the Care-less and Care-full':
"While depriving citizens of care, NAS narcissistic authoritarian statism nonetheless capitalizes on the individualist notion of care, widely promoted as “self-care” through an industry with billions in revenues. By ... taking care of oneself, contemporary subjectivities ... are tasked with the care of their overworked bodies, but are less and less interested in the well-being of bodies that are outside of the immediate realm of their family, class, workplace, city, country, and continent. They are further burdened with individual responsibility for their own care, since care has lost its character as a human right and has become a paid service. ".
Selfish care is the accumulation of influences from NAS on individual's belief systems about the notions of care. It represents the indoctrination of the capitalistic evolution of the care system, expressed through the associations with self care that tie it to a profit-driven industry.
"I can't come tonight, I need to do some face-masks and watch Netflix."
" Oh, so you're doing selfish-care tonight henny"
"I'm gonna treat myself. F*ck it, selfish-care"
"You do you, boo"
" Oh, so you're doing selfish-care tonight henny"
"I'm gonna treat myself. F*ck it, selfish-care"
"You do you, boo"
by soosoosoo December 10, 2023

by IPromiseToDoWhatIPromised May 22, 2025

by Nelldoesthings December 24, 2022

The thing I say to myself after spending 5+ minutes on a comment, post or UrbDic entry before deleting it because I’m not funny or interesting.
by IAlreadyUsedRaegoerOnAnAlt January 25, 2023

what an ignoarnt edgelord wannabe says not expecting for someone to try and turn it into a copypasta and will prob fail
person A: *imagery representing a racist terrorist group*
person B: wtf
person A: SUKA BLYAT, if you think that it is not funny, because "uuuuh! It was irl! Omg!" Just go eat sand, no one cares
person B: wtf
person A: SUKA BLYAT, if you think that it is not funny, because "uuuuh! It was irl! Omg!" Just go eat sand, no one cares
by Average UD writer July 22, 2024
