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Homosexual; a gay or queer man.
Gay historians say that the term came into popular use in the 1950's as gays and lesbians developed a special connection with Judy Garland, whose ballads of hope and despair and whose relentless spirit, and tragic history, mirrored their struggles in everyday life. She wasn't the first diva or drama queen, but certainly the one who resonated the most to a generation of gays and lesbians. Garland's most famous role -- as the ever-optimistic and wistful Dorothy in the 1939 classic "The Wizard of Oz" -- gave gays and lesbians a "secret" code word which they could use to refer to themselves. At cocktail parties or company gatherings where one could not be comfortably "out and proud," gays would inquire discreetly of each other, "Are you a 'Friend of Dorothy?'" The wink-wink admission of "I am, too!" would likely lead to fabulous and fast bonding in an age when gay bars were clandestine, and in some cases dangerous.
Today, the term is used mostly by Baby Boomers and an older generation of gays and lesbians; the gay members of MTV kids and Generations X and Y would probably not recognize the meaning of "FOD" unless they learned it from some older friends!
He's never been married, rumor has it he is "a friend of Dorothy"
by SteveinNY May 26, 2008
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The phrase that people use when saying a ridiculously embarrassing story about something that happened to to them. To save themselves from total humiliation they say "it happened to a friend of mine".
George: God, I am so embarrassed, I can't believe Stacy found out I was cheating with her.

Bill: Don't worry, at least you didn't cheat on her with what you thought was her sister but turned out to be her fat brother.

George: huh?

Bill: It happened to a friend of mine...
by Sieffy April 5, 2013
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a friend of mara

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Queers (mostly lesbians) ask if you are a friend of mara when they want to know if you are queer as well.
Long time ago they used 'friends of Dorothy' but the crew-ra brought this back again:)
Lesbian: hey. I've been wondering if.. if you are a friend of mara..?
Pan: heck yes I am ;) are you?
Lesbian: definitely.
by SomeAlienKid August 1, 2020
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A friend of Ellen's

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Referring to Ellen Degeneres. A phrase used when asking about a female's sexual preference. Basically asking is a particular woman gay. First heard on Community by Annie.
Person 1: So is Hannah... A friend of Ellen's...?
Person 2: Yes she is. And you can just say gay, moron.
by Sophie Marie Hare March 1, 2011
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whale of a friend

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an exceedingly kind, generous, caring, understanding and generally fantastic friend.
you're a whale of a friend.
great. so are you.
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A name of a friend

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The only kind of definitions that get into Urban Dictionary nowadays. Seriously, get over it.
Another A name of a friend definition in the voting section? DOWNVOTE.
#its time to stop
by troPSDNUORGWEN March 29, 2017
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a friend of Dorothy's

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a male homosexual(Judy Garland, the actress who played Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz, is belived to have been the favorite actress of many homosexuals at one point)
What makes you say he is a friend of Dorothy's
by The Return of Light Joker December 11, 2007
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