1 definition by sinfytheslut
Codependent:
A codependent woman has not developed a sufficient sense of self, she can't really tell you how she is; she can only tell you how her father, children, and cats are. She can't tell you how she wants something to be, but she can tell you the rule for how it should be. Not having a center to resonate from, she takes her cues from the outside. Her greatest fear is that if she loses or lets go of external forms -- the house, the father, the rules, the status -- she will fall into a terrifying emptiness. She fears she could not exist on her own. Developmentally part of her is like a tiny child who has not left her mother's arms, so she clings to forms, to people and things representing security, as if they were life itself. Because her spirit and soul have been profoundly neglected, she neglects her own inner self; indeed, it is unknown to her.
Alcoholic: You know what a alcoholic is.
slut: You know what a slut is.
A codependent woman has not developed a sufficient sense of self, she can't really tell you how she is; she can only tell you how her father, children, and cats are. She can't tell you how she wants something to be, but she can tell you the rule for how it should be. Not having a center to resonate from, she takes her cues from the outside. Her greatest fear is that if she loses or lets go of external forms -- the house, the father, the rules, the status -- she will fall into a terrifying emptiness. She fears she could not exist on her own. Developmentally part of her is like a tiny child who has not left her mother's arms, so she clings to forms, to people and things representing security, as if they were life itself. Because her spirit and soul have been profoundly neglected, she neglects her own inner self; indeed, it is unknown to her.
Alcoholic: You know what a alcoholic is.
slut: You know what a slut is.
by sinfytheslut December 24, 2002