coming out

is the term used by lesbians, gay men and bisexuals to describe their experience of self discovery, self-acceptance, openness and honesty about their sexual orientation and their decision to share this with others when and how they choose.

by dijjn June 04, 2003

heterosexism

Heterosexism - The false assumption that everyone is or should be heterosexual because it is assumed to be the only acceptable and viable life option; this assumption often leads to discrimination based on sexual orientation; a form of homophobia.

by dijjn June 04, 2003

high femme

A lesbian who expresses the cultural norm for ultra-femininity - makeup, dresses, heels, hair, nails.

by dijjn June 04, 2003

queer

queer: Originally pejorative for gay, now being reclaimed by some gay men, lesbians, bisexuals and transgendered persons as a self-affirming umbrella term. Caution: still extremely offensive when used as an epithet.

by dijjn June 04, 2003

bottom

A person of any above description who is more passive in a sexual situation. Allows the other person to set the tone/method of sex. May or may not include S & M, fantasy role play or fetishes. If it does include S & M, the bottom will be the receptor of bondage & pain play and will be the server of the top.

by dijjn June 04, 2003

internalized oppression

Internalized Oppression
the process by which a member of an oppressed group comes to accept and live out the inaccurate myths and stereotypes applied to the group.

by dijjn June 04, 2003

top

A person of any above description who "takes the lead" or is dominant in sexual situation. May or may not include S & M, fantasy role play or fetishes or servitude. May or may not want to be touched. Will initiate sex. If includes S & M, the top will be the one to do the bondage & pain play etc. to the bottom.

by dijjn June 04, 2003