dexmcgee's definitions

Enabling

Shielding a person from the consequences of a destructive behavior; Allowing a person's destructive behavior to persist by managing or minimizing the ill-effects of the behavior.

"Enabling" vs. "Empowering"

Enabling: supporting a person's behavior that (repeatedly/habitually) instigates a negative or destructive result

Empowering: supporting a person's ability or effort in a positive or progressive endeavor

Enabling can be as destructive as the behavior itself . . . a person enabling a destructive behavior is motivated by their need to do so and is gratified by reinforcing their superiority or control over that person; An "enabler" holds a person in an inferior state by denying them the motivation to change and therefore, the opportunity to grow.

by dexmcgee December 11, 2015

blame

An unfounded accusation; Assigning ownership of an effect without conclusive or definitive evidence that corresponds to the cause; Finger-pointing.

"Blame" is a quick and easy method to assign responsibility consistent with a particular agenda by jumping to conclusions based on assumptions rather than facts; As such, "blame" is more commonly observed where the ability to apply logic or reason is inhibited, i.e. less sophisticated settings , less (emotionally) developed persons .

by dexmcgee December 11, 2015