When two guys are dating the one with a larger penis is considered the "big deal" in the relationship.
That's the only big deal about being gay, so stop being such homophobic morons!
Edrik: You remember the movie Chuck and Larry? Do you think Chuck was the "big deal" or Larry?
Alexandra: I don't know but Chuck was the sexy fat one right?
Bella: Nah I think that was Larry?
Edrik: Whatever, it's not
a big deal. But I still think Larry was the "big deal" in that relationship!