(1.) The false idea that negative elements of life need to be edited or denied, for someone to be happy, successful, or even just okay. Instead of just accepting that life is full of everything: the wonderful, the terrible and everything in between.
(2.) A toxic leftover from a multi-billion dollar self- help industry.
(3.) The kind of willful ignorance and denial that inspired idioms such as, "Ostrich with its head in the sand" and "Elephant in the Room". A mental rationalization for ignoring or downplaying problems....instead of accurately assessing and fixing them.
(4.) Malignant hope for people and situations that are never going to change.
(5.) A favorite excuse/justification for those who emotionally police and manipulate others.
(2.) A toxic leftover from a multi-billion dollar self- help industry.
(3.) The kind of willful ignorance and denial that inspired idioms such as, "Ostrich with its head in the sand" and "Elephant in the Room". A mental rationalization for ignoring or downplaying problems....instead of accurately assessing and fixing them.
(4.) Malignant hope for people and situations that are never going to change.
(5.) A favorite excuse/justification for those who emotionally police and manipulate others.
If you have to construct "positivity" out of the ether, and put it in places it clearly doesn't belong....it's probably bullshit. What's "positive" about lying to yourself?
by Olive989 January 06, 2022
Get the Positivity mug.(1.) An asinine term said by fucked up authority figures, who think age should trump critical thinking, common sense, honest dialogue, or any sense of reasonableness.
There's a reason no adult accuses another adult of "talking back". It's as stupid as accusing a bird of chirping. If an adult wants to tell another adult they're being disrespectful, they use the term, "talking smack."
"Talking back" in contrast, is just the natural response anyone should expect, when they direct their words at another person. If someone does not wish to have a response to the things they are saying, furniture, inanimate objects, and non-human animals are available.
(2.) An adult example of regression, in which age is used as an excuse to not give an adult response, and instead basically tell someone to shut up.
There's a reason no adult accuses another adult of "talking back". It's as stupid as accusing a bird of chirping. If an adult wants to tell another adult they're being disrespectful, they use the term, "talking smack."
"Talking back" in contrast, is just the natural response anyone should expect, when they direct their words at another person. If someone does not wish to have a response to the things they are saying, furniture, inanimate objects, and non-human animals are available.
(2.) An adult example of regression, in which age is used as an excuse to not give an adult response, and instead basically tell someone to shut up.
Person A: Stop talking back to me sunny boy!
Person B: Okay. Your wish is my command. *executes 6 month vow of silence*
Person B: Okay. Your wish is my command. *executes 6 month vow of silence*
by Olive989 March 09, 2023
Get the Talking Back mug.(1.) A script in our heads that directs how we see ourselves, and in turn, how we perceive and interact with our world.
Everyone has a memory and an environment, but how we make sense of our experiences, and react to them, is unique. That's our story. That's our personal script.
(2.) A description of how something happened (or evolved), based on a particular point of view. This context includes biographies and major historical events, but also interpersonal accounts of every day events.
(I.E. "You'll never guess who I saw at the grocery store today Sara."...)
(3.) Fictional Writing that serves as a source of entertainment. And (many times) uses that entertainment wrapping, to speak truths in a more palatable way.
One example:
-The way Charles Dickens used the guise of entertainment to make English society care about the plight of children, (even among the wealthy elite, who wouldn't be caught dead reading a book on child labor, abuse or neglect.)
Charles Dickens Novels succeeded where impersonal statistics and pamphlet propaganda could not. Because he entertained people with his stories, didn't tell them what to think, and created tangible characters readers felt they knew and wanted to root for. This is how he made the plight of abused orphans and child factory workers compelling enough, people wanted to make it their problem.
Everyone has a memory and an environment, but how we make sense of our experiences, and react to them, is unique. That's our story. That's our personal script.
(2.) A description of how something happened (or evolved), based on a particular point of view. This context includes biographies and major historical events, but also interpersonal accounts of every day events.
(I.E. "You'll never guess who I saw at the grocery store today Sara."...)
(3.) Fictional Writing that serves as a source of entertainment. And (many times) uses that entertainment wrapping, to speak truths in a more palatable way.
One example:
-The way Charles Dickens used the guise of entertainment to make English society care about the plight of children, (even among the wealthy elite, who wouldn't be caught dead reading a book on child labor, abuse or neglect.)
Charles Dickens Novels succeeded where impersonal statistics and pamphlet propaganda could not. Because he entertained people with his stories, didn't tell them what to think, and created tangible characters readers felt they knew and wanted to root for. This is how he made the plight of abused orphans and child factory workers compelling enough, people wanted to make it their problem.
Another example:
- The way Science Fiction shows in the U.S. (like the Twilight Zone) were able to broach political topics on TV, no one else could get away with at the time, thanks to some insane censorship laws....and no one taking fictional stories seriously. (Cold War Era).
If you want to open closed minds, avoid censorship, or speak truth to an oppressive government, hide your message in a fictional story.
- The way Science Fiction shows in the U.S. (like the Twilight Zone) were able to broach political topics on TV, no one else could get away with at the time, thanks to some insane censorship laws....and no one taking fictional stories seriously. (Cold War Era).
If you want to open closed minds, avoid censorship, or speak truth to an oppressive government, hide your message in a fictional story.
by Olive989 March 10, 2023
Get the Story mug.Face sitting/riding that is particularly eager, aggressive, or enthusiastic in such a way it parallels waterboarding.
Can refer to either purposeful smothering through out (like a dom/sub context), or a girl having an orgasm so explosive she loses control and unintentionally smothers her boyfriend/girlfriend's face during the lead up to and duration of the orgasm.
The "water" from the waterboarding reference can be either a really wet, creaming pussy, or a girl squirting.
Can refer to either purposeful smothering through out (like a dom/sub context), or a girl having an orgasm so explosive she loses control and unintentionally smothers her boyfriend/girlfriend's face during the lead up to and duration of the orgasm.
The "water" from the waterboarding reference can be either a really wet, creaming pussy, or a girl squirting.
I feel so bad I Guantanamo Bae 'd my boyfriend's face. I just couldn't control it. They say the heart wants what it wants. But damn. I guess the pussy does too.
by Olive989 March 17, 2023
Get the Guantanamo Bae mug.A girl who got stuck on a really hellish date, because a guy thought she owed him after giving her food.
With all the meat and fiery pits down here, you'd think the King of Hell would have at least summoned me some kind of chargrilled burger. But no. He gave me a piece of fruit that's like 90% seed. Of all the things that could've kept me down here...This seems like a particularly shitty deal.
-Persephone
-Persephone
by Olive989 March 12, 2023
Get the Persephone mug.(1.) The easiest negative emotion to channel into productivity.
While depression is like a static pond that sinks into the earth and grows mold, anger is like boating down rapids. The ride can be a bit bumpy, (perilous even, if it turns to rage) but you’ve got enough power in that water current…you’ll sure as shit get somewhere.
The trick is being able to paddle (channel your anger), otherwise that energy will take you somewhere quick you don’t want to go, (like a rapid that pushes you overboard and makes you hit your head on a rock).
(2.) The expectation that something in this world should be better than it currently is, and someone else is responsible for why it’s not.
(3.) When hope makes a peace treaty with other negative emotions (such as grief, fear, despair, shame), by assigning them two targets…something or someone to blame, and something to do about it. (The something to do about it doesn’t have to be direct (such as plotting revenge). It can also involve self-actualization or the betterment of oneself /others).
While depression is like a static pond that sinks into the earth and grows mold, anger is like boating down rapids. The ride can be a bit bumpy, (perilous even, if it turns to rage) but you’ve got enough power in that water current…you’ll sure as shit get somewhere.
The trick is being able to paddle (channel your anger), otherwise that energy will take you somewhere quick you don’t want to go, (like a rapid that pushes you overboard and makes you hit your head on a rock).
(2.) The expectation that something in this world should be better than it currently is, and someone else is responsible for why it’s not.
(3.) When hope makes a peace treaty with other negative emotions (such as grief, fear, despair, shame), by assigning them two targets…something or someone to blame, and something to do about it. (The something to do about it doesn’t have to be direct (such as plotting revenge). It can also involve self-actualization or the betterment of oneself /others).
I'd rather deal with anger than depression or sadness any day of the week. Contrary to the suffering artist myth, most manifestations of suffering do not yield productivity.
by Olive989 March 23, 2023
Get the Anger mug.Similar to sleep apnea accept the source of you not being able to breathe/waking up... is your cat parking their butt on your face.
Apparently it's a really comfortable napping position.
Apparently it's a really comfortable napping position.
I woke up gasping for air, thinking my sleep apnea was acting up again. But no. It was just Garfield's vibrating butt on my face, purring. I'm calling it catnapnea.
by Olive989 March 07, 2023
Get the Catnapnea mug.