Definitions by Aileen

dominant 

The person in BDSM who dominates or controls the wordsubmissive/word partner. A dominant can be either a full-time Mistress or Master, or simply a top (the person doing the tying up or whipping, etc.)

The best kind of dominant is confidant and mature in their street life, too.

dominant by Aileen April 21, 2003

Submissive 

A person in BDSM who submits to a Dominant person. A submissive can be a slave and/or the bottom (the person being tied up or whipped, etc.).

Janet was a submissive in bed, but she knew how to stand up for herself when her boss tried to push her around.

Submissive by Aileen April 21, 2003

painslut 

Usually a BDSM term. Someone who enjoys physical pain and/or humiliation to great extremes; usually a submissive, but not in all cases. The word is generally applied to someone who 'can't get enough' pain and torture, similar to someone who enjoys promiscuous sex.

What I really need is a nice little painslut; all of my boyfriends have been pussies and even whined when I only whipped them.

painslut by Aileen April 21, 2003

Domme 

female dominant in a BDSM relationship
(usually spelled as a proper noun, e.g. 'Domme', as is it's male counterpart, 'Dom')

Michael only addresses his Mistress as 'ma'am'; he calls other Dommes by their given names.

Domme by Aileen April 21, 2003

collar 

Besides the common definition, a BDSM symbol of attachment of a submissive to a Dominant through collar made of metal, leather, or other material. Similar to a wedding band in vanilla society. Most collars are equipped with rings where a leash or restrain can be attached, like a dog's collar.

Wearing his collar to sleep was uncomfortable, but it reminded John all of the time that his Mistress loved and owned him, and he felt safe.

collar by Aileen April 21, 2003