The amount of control possessed by each person in a romantic relationship. Short for 'the upper hand', it is a lighthearted way of describing the shift of control in a relationship, based on the assumption that one person tends to have the upper hand over the other.
Coined in Seinfeld episode "The Pez Dispenser"
George: No everything is *not* going good. I'm very uncomfortable. I have no power. I mean, why should she have the upper hand. *Once* in my life I would like the upper hand. I have no hand-- no hand at all. She has the hand; I have *no* hand...
How do I get the hand?
Jerry: We all want the hand. Hand is tough to get. You gotta get the hand right from the opening.
(n): The act of adding another to ones friends list or other internet medium recognition of reciprocal link. admés • adméing (v): To add someone to one's friends list or other interent medium recognition of reiprocal link.
Sue and Joe commenced to chatting and adméing after finally exchanging internet contact information.