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Gaslighting

A form of intimidation or psychological abuse, sometimes called Ambient Abuse where false information is presented to the victim, making them doubt their own memory, perception and quite often, their sanity. The classic example of gaslighting is to switch something around on someone that you know they're sure to notice, but then deny knowing anything about it, and to explain that they "must be imagining things" when they challenge these changes.

A more psychological definition of gaslighting is "an increasing frequency of systematically withholding factual information from, and/or providing false information to, the victim - having the gradual effect of making them anxious, confused, and less able to trust their own memory and perception.
Your spouse begins telling you things that never really happened. For instance, he says that last week he told you he was going to go to the bar with his buddies this Monday night, but you never remember him telling you that.

Or maybe your boss gets angry because you didn't prepare the report he asked you to. When you remind him that he usually prepares that particular report, he snaps that he told you to take care of it a few days ago because he was too busy. However, you know he never asked you to do so.

Both of these could be considered gaslighting.

Gaslighting

When you lie to someone and you make them feel insane because they don’t know what to believe anymore. It’s a type of psychological abuse.
Matt Watson is always gaslighting Ryan Magee. Ryan says “ Stop gas lighting me Matt sponge bob is not gay”
Gaslighting by Super mega fan June 24, 2019

Gaslighting

There's no such thing as gaslighting. Who even told you about this word? You probably dreamt it up. You're so stupid for even thinking this could be a real word.
Gaslighting? Maybe you misremembered a different word?
Gaslighting by EdMason September 7, 2021

Ambient Gaslighting 

ambient gaslighting - Most people now know gaslighting, put simply, is when someone tries to make someone else question their reality. "Ambient gaslighting" refers to the subtle undercurrents of mistreatment or disrespect that we experience in small doses and may not realize are a form of gaslighting.

Physician psychiatrist Dr. Grant Brenner coin the term.

Are you being gaslit ?
Here are signs you're being gaslit, according to USA TODAY columnist Sara Kuburic:

You are often confused.

You are struggling to trust your memories or feelings.

You find yourself constantly apologizing.

You feel like you can’t do anything right.

You are often nervous, worried or anxious.
You don’t feel confident.
You struggle to trust yourself.
You constantly blame yourself when something goes wrong (even if it’s not your fault).
Ambient Gaslighting In the workplace. Executives may espouse transparency, but employees may experience behavior contrary to to that.

In targeted marketing. "People may be confused as to whether the ad they got is something they really wanted, or whether that desire has been planted in that.

In political news. Polarized politics have led to seemingly alternate realities that have only accelerated during the pandemic. Convincing opinion-like news programs or unverified viral social media posts may make you question your beliefs.
Ambient Gaslighting by Blu_leef March 31, 2023

institutional gaslighting 

Institutional Gaslighting: When a group of respected people within an institution are posed as investigating on the victim’s behalf, but in actuality act to belittle or deny the reality of the harm committed in order to protect the institution’s reputation, the institution can cause the victim to question their own perceptions of reality, feelings, instincts, and even sanity. When an authority figure incites self-doubt in the victim, they are employing a tactic of emotional abuse referred to as “gaslighting, a term coined in reference to domestic abuse.” Perpetrators, whether they are individuals or institutions, use “gaslighting” to get what they want, typically “without ever taking responsibility for their actions or even their precipitating desires.” When an institution gaslights a victim in order to protect its own reputation, the institutional betrayal silences, invalidates, and harms recent survivors in their most vulnerable states.
LaJuana informs psychiatrist Dr. Van Schenck, a gangstalker tried to murder her and she captured the attack on dash-cam.

Dr. Van Schenck reviews the video and tells patient she is having audio and visual hallucinations. Despite the patients clear and convincing video evidence, the doctor refuses to give patient her regular medication, but says he will write her a perscription to treat schizophrenia (a medication in-which he recieves financial kick backs) Dr. Van Schenck pretends he's not aware paitent is a Targeted Individual of non-consensual remote Smart Dust/ Nanotechnology experiments being conducted by Academia and Big Pharma. The doctor documents his false diagnosis into her medical file. LaJuana has just experienced Institutional Gaslighting.

Gaslighting

Gaslighting is a systematic pattern of abuse by which the abuser manipulates factual information to give the victim the impression that they cannot trust their own senses. It should not be confused with discounting or minimizing, two very different forms of verbal abuse that are far more common.
Yashar Ali has no idea what 'gaslighting' means.
Gaslighting by reallyitstrue November 1, 2012
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