2 definitions by Wendy Darling + Peter's Wendy

bumblefuckery

#bumblefuckery #bumblefry #bumblebeez: Momentary failure to live up to the Mission, Vision and Values (MVV) declared by the Sole Proprietor, Non or Not for Profit, Non Governmental Organization, Educational Institution or Private or Publicly Held Corporation (SP/NorNFP/NGO/EI/PrHC/PHC) charged with providing a verifiably beneficial service (VBS). Who through the provision of service, and/or way service was provided, caused unintentional or unrecognizable harm (CUIH or CURH) to student/s, client/s, patient/s or other service recipient/s (S/C/P/OSR). And may have done so so in ways that adversely impact both the S/C/P/OSR as well as their Kin (via inconvenience, expense, &/or situational, chronic or seismic harm (Via I, E, SH/CH/SH). The impact of which may affect current financial, physical, mental, emotional, moral &/or spiritual well-being and may also extend in far reaching ways, compounding existing trauma from lived experiences where harm was caused when progress, well-being &/or healing was promised yet not delivered in categorially inept &/or harmful ways; requiring time, energy and money to care for immediate wounds, while also having to address, redress or address anew past wounds (A/RPW/AAPW), be they physical or otherwise, visible or invisible. #restitutionrequiredalongwithpossiblerestorationandreparations

"_ _ _ _ _ _ _ " Swim School in _ _ _ _ _ _, CA USA exhibited #bumblefuckery when the owners did not immediately reprimand their employees for spanking K-5 students who were scared to swim instead of exploring what was scary about learning to swim and determining how to better approach acclimating #WaterSensitive Students #NeurodiverseStudents #StudentsWithInvisibleDisabilities to a pool environment. Including the pool itself; the scent of a pool; the ambient and variable sounds of a pool; the temperature of a pool and how it varies from first steps to deepest waters; the physical sensations of being in a pool up to your *ankles, calves, *knees, *groin, *chest, *neck; and/or *having your head underwater be it momentarily and willingly or otherwise**. Not to mention taking on larger Learning Curves like staying underwater for more than the average person can hold their breath, dog paddling in the deep end of the pool (aided or unaided), jumping off a diving board (accompanied or unaccompanied), sliding down a slide (retro, current or water park) and/or jumping off a high dive (knowingly and with consent or unknowingly without consent).

* Each of these requiring a different level of awareness, care, concern and trouble shooting depending of the lived experiences of the student, client or other service recipient -- along with different approaches to safely move from shallower waters to deeper waters, well assisted and well supported, to independently.

by Wendy Darling + Peter's Wendy August 31, 2023

#fuckwittery #fwittery #fwits

#fuckwittery #fwittery #fwits: When a Sole Proprietor, Non or Not for Profit, Non Governmental Organization, Educational Institution or Private or Publicly Held Corporation (SP/NorNFP/NGO/EI/PrHC/PHC) charged with providing a beneficial service (CWPBS) verifiably fails to live up stated MVV + any codified Accreditation Policies and Practices (CAP&P) and/or Code of Ethics (COE) … requiring time, energy, money AND Invisible and Historically Underestimated Emotional Labor (RT/RE/RM/RI&HUEL) to care for immediate wounds (CFIW), while also having to address, redress prior wounds or address anew past wounds (A/RPW/AAPW), be they physical or otherwise, visible or invisible or aimed at one person, several people, a group of people, entire communities or nations.

#restitutionandrestorationareandreparationsrequiredforS/C/P/OSR #possiblerestitutionandrestorationareandreparationsrequiredforKINofS/C/P/OSR

As a college student, Wendy sought help via Campus Counseling Services and the College's Minister following a Student Assembly where she realized she { DID NOT } drink too much at a college event she attended, but rather was #roofied* at an After Party. Upon piecing together the events of the evening along with new information about what it looks and feels like to be drugged with a doctored drink*. Having had this tragic new awareness met with questions about #whatwereyouwearing? #whygototheapartmentofsomeoneyoudontknow? #whydidntyouleave? #whydidittakeuntilnowforyoutotellsomeone? Wendy decided additional harm would come from returning for more sessions.

Neither college employee, or representatives from any other department/s on campus followed up with Wendy (i.e. DPS, SHC, Dean, Provost &/or President's Office). Despite Mandated Reporting not being in existence at the time (early 90's), common sense dictates you follow up with students in crisis, especially when they're involved Student Leaders (Campus Ministry as a ...; Student Housing as a ... ; and Editor of the ... and ...) and you are on payroll for a Private Liberal Arts College charged with the education, care and well-being of under 1k students -- something Wendy's parents paid a premium for (est. $25k USD, circa 1991).

utter #fuckwittery #fwittery #fwits

*The insidious ingredients can leave you incapacitated, w/ no memory of events following their consumption... See Rebel Wilson's Roofie Ordeal: 6 Warning Signs

by Wendy Darling + Peter's Wendy September 1, 2023