11 definitions by RealHonestDefinition
Referring to a person by a name they made up instead of their real birth name, especially when referring to them by this new name is meant to give legitimacy to the idea that the person is no longer who/what they actually are. For example, if a person is male but wants others to think of him as a female, he might change his name to Caitlyn, and demand to be called Caitlyn, demonizing anyone who calls him by his actual name. He wants you to fakename him. If you do not, he will say that you are "deadnaming" him, a term used to manipulate people into feeling guilty for being honest.
Bruce said "Hey, stop calling me Bruce! Call me Caitlyn, to show that you fully agree with the idea that I'm a woman. Do it or else you are not a good friend. Just accept me as being anything I claim to be!"
His honest friend said "But that would be fakenaming you, and it would make it seem like I agree that you are a woman. You are not a woman, so forcing me to call you by your fake name is forcing me to lie. Forcing me to lie is not something a good friend would do. Just accept me as being honest!"
His honest friend said "But that would be fakenaming you, and it would make it seem like I agree that you are a woman. You are not a woman, so forcing me to call you by your fake name is forcing me to lie. Forcing me to lie is not something a good friend would do. Just accept me as being honest!"
by RealHonestDefinition July 18, 2023
Deadnaming is the act of referring to a person by the name given by their parents, instead of by the name they chose for themselves later in life. It is considered by some to be an evil insult, and considered by others as a simple reference to who someone really is.
"If you grew up with Marilyn Monroe, and you call her Norma Jean, you are deadnaming her. Stop it, you evil monster!"
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"I demand that you call her Caitlyn from now on."
"But his name is Bruce. I would feel guilty if I ignored my conscience by purposely perpetuating a lie. I don't want to force myself to use a stage name as if it was real, or to pretend that someone is someone other than who they really are. If it upsets you when I use his real name or pronoun, then I will do my best to respect his feelings, and the feelings of others with your beliefs, by avoiding referring to him by EITHER name. And I will refer to him as "they/them" instead of "he/him"...but I refuse to refer to him as "she/her". I am doing my best to show respect to his feelings and yours, and I ask that you also respect MY feelings by not trying to force me to lie, and that you please stop trying to police my thoughts and beliefs with threats of cancellation."
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"I demand that you call her Caitlyn from now on."
"But his name is Bruce. I would feel guilty if I ignored my conscience by purposely perpetuating a lie. I don't want to force myself to use a stage name as if it was real, or to pretend that someone is someone other than who they really are. If it upsets you when I use his real name or pronoun, then I will do my best to respect his feelings, and the feelings of others with your beliefs, by avoiding referring to him by EITHER name. And I will refer to him as "they/them" instead of "he/him"...but I refuse to refer to him as "she/her". I am doing my best to show respect to his feelings and yours, and I ask that you also respect MY feelings by not trying to force me to lie, and that you please stop trying to police my thoughts and beliefs with threats of cancellation."
by RealHonestDefinition June 26, 2022
Deadnaming is the act of referring to a person by the name given by their parents, instead of by the name they chose for themselves later in life. It is considered by some to be an evil insult, and considered by others as a simple reference to who someone really is.
"If you grew up with Marilyn Monroe, and you call her Norma Jean, you are deadnaming her. Stop it, you evil monster!"
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"I demand that you call her Caitlyn from now on."
"But his name is Bruce. I would feel guilty if I ignored my conscience by purposely perpetuating a lie. I don't want to force myself to use a stage name as if it was real, or to pretend that someone is someone other than who they really are. If it upsets you when I use his real name or pronoun, then I will do my best to respect his feelings, and the feelings of others with your beliefs, by avoiding referring to him by EITHER name. And I will refer to him as 'they/them' instead of 'he/him'...but I refuse to refer to him as 'she/her'. I am doing my best to show respect for his feelings and yours, and I ask that you also respect MY feelings by not trying to force me to lie, and that you please stop trying to police my thoughts and beliefs with threats of cancellation."
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"I demand that you call her Caitlyn from now on."
"But his name is Bruce. I would feel guilty if I ignored my conscience by purposely perpetuating a lie. I don't want to force myself to use a stage name as if it was real, or to pretend that someone is someone other than who they really are. If it upsets you when I use his real name or pronoun, then I will do my best to respect his feelings, and the feelings of others with your beliefs, by avoiding referring to him by EITHER name. And I will refer to him as 'they/them' instead of 'he/him'...but I refuse to refer to him as 'she/her'. I am doing my best to show respect for his feelings and yours, and I ask that you also respect MY feelings by not trying to force me to lie, and that you please stop trying to police my thoughts and beliefs with threats of cancellation."
by RealHonestDefinition June 26, 2022
There is so much homophobiaphobia that it's causing me to have homophobiaphobiaphobia!
by RealHonestDefinition April 2, 2023