2 definitions by Kitten (sub)
In BDSM, D/s code phrase for, "Are you in your role?" A Dominant will ask his submissive this just before a scene. If the sub needs a few minutes more, this is the time for him/her to mention it. If the sub's answer "Yes, Sir/Mistress" then the scene is on.
Dom: "I'm coming by in 20 minutes with a friend. Same as last time: take your top off; on your knees; him first, then me. Do not speak unless you're spoken to. Are you ready?"
sub: "Oh, YES, Sir!"
sub: "Oh, YES, Sir!"
by Kitten (sub) March 14, 2008
In a D/s relationship, that very special place the submissive enters when he/she totally trusts his/her Dominant, and totally immerses in an intense scene. The sub may not be capable of making rational decisions about his/her safety and well-being at this point.
It is the responsibility of the Dom to provide for the welfare of his/her sub, as he/she has trusted him to do. It is also the Dom's responsibility after the scene to help the sub to return to "vanilla space" after the scene. This entails providing both physical and emotional assurance to the sub, until he/she regains his/her sense of self, and is known as, "aftercare".
It is the responsibility of the Dom to provide for the welfare of his/her sub, as he/she has trusted him to do. It is also the Dom's responsibility after the scene to help the sub to return to "vanilla space" after the scene. This entails providing both physical and emotional assurance to the sub, until he/she regains his/her sense of self, and is known as, "aftercare".
Dom: "Sweetie?" Hey... it's time to come back. You made me very happy today, and I love you." <Kisses sub on the neck>
sub: "Sir? Sorry... i was gone for awhile. You know, in subspace. i'm so happy i made you happy. i'd really like to do that again sometime, if it pleases You".
sub: "Sir? Sorry... i was gone for awhile. You know, in subspace. i'm so happy i made you happy. i'd really like to do that again sometime, if it pleases You".
by Kitten (sub) March 17, 2008