verb | past tense: Fletchered
Definition:
A colloquial term used primarily within LGBTQ+ communities—especially among lesbians—to describe the experience of being unexpectedly left by a woman who subsequently begins a relationship with a man. Often used humorously or with irony, the term references a sense of betrayal or emotional whiplash, particularly when the woman was perceived as firmly identifying as a lesbian.
Etymology:
Derived from the pop singer Fletcher, whose queer-themed lyrics and personal branding have resonated with lesbian audiences. The term playfully reflects the perceived contradiction or the very real heartbreak when a seemingly lesbian-identified partner dates someone of the opposite sex, echoing themes in Fletcher’s music and public persona.
TL;DR: Named after former sapphic-pop star Fletcher, whose music is queer AF but who infamously dated a man after releasing some very gay bangers. Getting Fletchered is the queer version of “what just happened?”—equal parts betrayal, bisexual panic, and ironic meme fuel.
🫀Use with caution. Respect bi folks. But yeah… sometimes it do be like that.
Definition:
A colloquial term used primarily within LGBTQ+ communities—especially among lesbians—to describe the experience of being unexpectedly left by a woman who subsequently begins a relationship with a man. Often used humorously or with irony, the term references a sense of betrayal or emotional whiplash, particularly when the woman was perceived as firmly identifying as a lesbian.
Etymology:
Derived from the pop singer Fletcher, whose queer-themed lyrics and personal branding have resonated with lesbian audiences. The term playfully reflects the perceived contradiction or the very real heartbreak when a seemingly lesbian-identified partner dates someone of the opposite sex, echoing themes in Fletcher’s music and public persona.
TL;DR: Named after former sapphic-pop star Fletcher, whose music is queer AF but who infamously dated a man after releasing some very gay bangers. Getting Fletchered is the queer version of “what just happened?”—equal parts betrayal, bisexual panic, and ironic meme fuel.
🫀Use with caution. Respect bi folks. But yeah… sometimes it do be like that.
“We uHauled, got matching tattoos, made a playlist, and were planning a cottagecore future together — then she slept with her coworker Brad. I got Fletchered.”
by Kissommers June 10, 2025