Blamtastical's definitions

binarist

This is an adjective used to indicate anything which acts as if binary genders are superior, erases people whose genders exist outside of the "binary" of men and women, and so on. The noun form is binarism. Binarism is a specific form of transphobia, which means it is a form of sexism. Due to the prevalence of additional genders in many nonwhite cultures, binarism can also be an expression of racism.

Native Hawaiians have a third gender called "Māhū" and their cultural genders are a lot more fluid than general mainland American culture. White people rejecting the existence of Māhū individuals is not only binarist, it is also a racist extension of the ongoing attempts to squash indigenous cultures.

by Blamtastical September 12, 2019

Consentodore

"Consentodore" is a leadership title that plays off the naval title Commodore. It can be used by anyone of any gender regardless of naval affiliation, who is focused on enforcing and/or supporting consent within the group the leader leads/rules/commands/etc. Sometimes it is awarded as a nickname, sometimes it is chosen, sometimes it is the name of a role.

I am a Consentodore because supporting informed consent in my kink community is important to me.

by Blamtastical March 24, 2020

creosapiosexual

One who finds creative intelligence the most sexually attractive feature.

Sometimes this also means gender and other physical manifestations play little or no role in the person's attractions.

Alexandria still can't tell if her classmate Sandy is a boy or a girl, but as a creosapiosexual she is highly attracted to the creative, intelligent personality of her peer. She is planning to ask Sandy out this weekend to find out.

by Blamtastical February 25, 2010

wing team

It's like that term "wing man," except that it applies when there are more than just one person helping someone out in efforts to connect with someone they don't know in a romantic and/or sexual way. It's most often used in polyamory, when multiple partners support someone's efforts with a new partner. A wing team, however, does not always consist of established partners.

When Shelly and Anneli took me out to dinner for our triad anniversary, Anneli took a liking to someone sitting at the bar. Shelly and I had played wing team for Ann before, so we had the two them talking up a storm in no time at all, with full disclosure about our triad from the very beginning. Best anniversary ever.

by Blamtastical January 14, 2015

cognymation

From the Latin "cogn-" meaning to know or understand, and the Greek "nym-" meaning a name or word, a cognymation is a celebration, ceremony, or other gathering in which a person or thing's name is made known. The meaning of the name is often as important to the cognymation as the name itself.

Cognymations are popular amongst people who change their names for deeply personal reasons. For example, many transgender people choose a new name to reflect their gender. Other people change their names for spiritual or religious reasons.

Regardless of the given person's reasons, a sense of a new beginning often accompanies a name change. This is sometimes marked during a cognymation. Actual procedures and methods vary widely, as cognymations are a relatively new phenomenon in Western cultures.

"Hi, Alice! Keep the 10th open if you can," Rebecca said.

"Why's that, what's going on?" Alice asked.

"My name change will be legal by then," she answered, "and that's when my pastor and I will be holding my cognymation. I can't wait to celebrate with everyone. I hope you can make it!"

"Cool! I'll do my best. Why did you pick "Rebecca" again?"

"That's part of what we'll be explaining at the cognymation," Rebecca said with a smile.

by Blamtastical March 5, 2013

binarism

Noun - As in sexism or racism, binarism refers to a collection of harmful thoughts, actions, laws, and other social systems that uplift one group of people while erasing or otherwise harming a minority group. In the case of binarism, the word refers to actions and thoughts that promote the gender binary (male/female) while excluding, erasing, or otherwise harming people of other genders or no gender at all. People harmed by binarism are generally people within the nonbinary gender umbrella, or agender. Binarism is often exhibited towards nonbinary people by cis gender and binary trans gender people alike.

The adjective form of binarism is binarist. A specific thought/action/etc that exhibits binarism is said to be binarist in quality.

I wish people would say "honored guests" instead of "ladies and gentlemen" when addressing groups. "Ladies and gentlemen" is so binarist! It makes my heart hurt just to hear it. I really wish binarism wasn't a thing, and that people like me were recognized as being real.

by Blamtastical May 17, 2018

homologism

n - a cognitive dysfunction which constitutes assuming that all people in one's own group think the same way one does about given/related topics

"Homologism is rampant in my church. Everybody there assumes that you agree with waiting until marriage to have sex, even though most people won't actually care if you do it."

"I'm so tired of the way my roommate keeps homologising me. Yes, we are both gay, but that doesn't mean I agree with her that bisexual people are just afraid to come all the way out of the closet. Bisexuality is a real thing."

by Blamtastical April 22, 2015