You can't win for losing 

When you win something but , winning means you lose either psychologically emotionally physically financially, anyway that negatively impacts you.

You do the dishes cuz your parents told you to and ,then when you're finished they yell at you for doing it wrong even though they didn't tell you how to do it in the first place ! Man you can't win for losing

You can't win for losing by dragonboy8586 October 15, 2019

You can't win 'em all

one cannot always be successful (often used after one has failed)

Damn, the Patriots beat the Eagles. I guess you can't win 'em all.

You can't win 'em all by Light Joker October 9, 2005

You can never win against a smiling man 

A stance one takes in an argument to smile, remain calm, collected and to focus on the argument's topic at hand without referring to falling back on snide remarks or insults of the opposing side.

During an argument, you sit back with a smile, keeping your cool and staying confident, picking your words carefully, even admitting defeat at certain points if the other is right.

Most of the time, the opposition will be backed into a corner after being at a loss for words for you being completely correct and unless they are a competitive person who refuses to admit defeat or that they are wrong (which most people are), then they will resort to other means of winning the argument, in which case they have lost regardless.

You can never win against a smiling man by Sek March 29, 2005