not-date

a date-like activity or activities (i.e. movies, dinner) performed by a guy and a girl together, who have no interest in each other and no intent to date. These activities are performed strictly as friends, although these not-dates can be segues into the awkward phase before actual dating commences.

For other people, distinguishing between a date and a not-date is difficult, if not impossible. Thus, those who are on a not-date are often confused by other people that they are dating or vice versa.

In the base metaphor, a not-date is the equivalent of sitting in the bleachers and watching the game.

Ex. 1:
Ryan: "So then Claire and I went to dinner and then watched a movie at my place."
Jake: "All right! So did you hit that?"
Ryan: "Hell no. It was a not-date."

Ex. 2:
(at a restaurant)
Waiter: "Okay, you're total's going to be $23.44."
Jimmy: "Can you make those two separate orders?"
Waiter: "Sorry about that, I thought that you were on a date."
Jimmy: "No, we're friends. This is a not-date."

not-date by Dglgmut May 23, 2010

not-date

A not-date is a sad excuse for people who can't decide whether they are going to get some or not. Often misused for DWOB.

That guy is so sad, going on all of those not-dates, I mean, DWOBs

not-date by PaulyD89 March 3, 2011

not date

When two people go and do date-like activities and one or both have romantic intentions on the other, but neither is willing to man-up and call it a date. Also known as "hanging out."

God, he asked me on another not date. When is he going to suck it up and admit that he likes me?

not date by Sargogoledum November 22, 2009

Not A Date 

Usually prounouced NAD. n-ah-d as in the second half of gonads.

1) A setting where 2 people meet usually prior to a date; at coffee or ice cream to evaluate the other person preceding an actual date
2) A social meeting where 2 people may appear to be on a date (either at dinner, miniature golfing, a movie, ect) but if asked will deny the “date” and state with great intensity “we are just friends”

Shelley: How was the NAD (Not A Date) last night?
Sam: Oh we went for ice cream, but she has 4 cats . . . .
Shelley: are you going to go see a movie with her tonight
Sam: she has 4 cats . . . .
Shelley: so I guess I am going to have some sort of mental breakdown that will prevent you from going on a the date
Sam: not one, not two, but 4 cats . .

Shelley: but you keep NADding her!
Sam: it’s a really good not a relationship

Not A Date by Bessie Lou November 6, 2009