Skip to main content

guesslighting 

A form of psychological abuse (or ambient abuse) in which one or more persons deliberately engage in providing multiple accounts of false information to the victim, making them doubt their own memories or question their sanity, and it is up to the victim to guess which information is correct. Similar to gaslighting, but can be layered.
I had a paperwork problem with an employer that required me to meet with another person and fill out paperwork. After filling in the paperwork, a different person contacted me and said the paperwork was incorrect and to contact the first person to resolve the problem. The first person denied meeting with me and told me there was no paperwork in the system at all. I set up an appointment to meet with them and start over. They left the office on vacation an hour before I arrived. Their receptionist told me to fill out the paperwork myself and deliver it the next day. When I delivered it the next day, the receptionist gave me a name (in the same office) who I could contact about it and said they would give the paperwork to them. I couldn't speak to them directly without setting up an appointment. I called the person later in the day to set up an appointment. They said they didn't have the paperwork. When I explained that I handed it to the receptionist, they angrily told me I can't do that because the receptionist would put it in the mail system, which would leave the building, go to the post office, and come back before it would get to that person's desk. The receptionist knew this.

A week later I received a letter indicating that the second set of paperwork was rejected as it contradicted the first set of paperwork (that was supposedly not in the system).

"We're guesslighting that guy to see if he figures out that the job was pulled a week before the interview."
guesslighting by W1nter June 21, 2017

guessfest 

A situation where you are constantly guessing what will happen next and it's all usually bad and anxiety-based.
Brian went to the party and then began the guessfest - Where was Abby? Why did his sister laugh when he said he was officially dating Abby? Where was Sean - her ex? Why was his car making that funny sound on the way the to party?
guessfest by von groovy April 21, 2019

guessestimate 

Its like a guess and a estimation put together. It's pretty much my favorite word'
I'm About to guessestimate
guessestimate by jp09 February 15, 2009

guess list 

This is the list that you tell people when u invite them somewhere and they want to know who else is going before they commit. It includes those who are definitely going, those who might go, those who plan on going but never show up. And it does not include those who show up completely unexpectedly. The actual attendance always ends up being totally different than the guess list.
Are you going tonight?

Idk maybe, who else is going?

So far the guess list includes me, Kumo, Lourdes, Bob, Sandra. I think Maria and Tanesha are going too. Vanessa if her back feels better. Rachele might stop by. Nicole might stop by but she has to get up really early tomorrow so probably not.
guess list by moviemogul February 19, 2011

Guessintog 

1. Giving it your best educated guess on a random outcome.
2. Applying great effort when things are hopeless and dismal
3. Having no clue on an answer but trying to give a correct answer fumbling through words trying to sound smart or sophisticated.
1.When taking a multiple choice test and one does not know the answer, I recommend the Guessintog method.
2. You know trying to move a mountain physically is just Guessintog!
3. During the political debate, there was a lot of Guessintog from both sides.
Guessintog by Charrid November 14, 2022

Guesslighting 

A psychological sport (often unannounced) in which a female partner—while visibly disturbed—denies being upset and instead forces her male counterpart to participate in a high-stakes, zero-clue emotional guessing game. Each incorrect guess is met with escalating passive aggression, eye-rolls, or the infamous "I'm fine."
"Bro, she was totally guesslighting me. I asked what was wrong and she hit me with “idk 🫤” then posted “loyalty is rare these days” on her story with a black screen."