Bicoastal Drunk Texting (BDT) most commonly occurs with friends living on opposite ends of the country, separated by several time zones. Someone on the East Coast will start drinking at normal hours and then start drunk texting or sexting their friends. What they don't consider is that their West Coast counterparts are three hours behind, so they start receiving these drunk texts and sexts in the late afternoon/early evening.
Bicoastal Drunk Texting (BDT)
Messages 9pm ET:
"I want you right now baby!"
"I'm so wasted! Ahhhh I want you NOW!"
"Sorry...drunkkkk"
Recipient at 6PM PT:
"Wow...she's wasted and I haven't even eaten dinner yet."
"The future looks bright. I want to be you in 3 hours!"
"I love it when you BDT me baby."
The grindset is a contemporary ideology of self-exploitation disguised as strength, deeply tied to the aesthetics of the “sigma male” and to new digital forms of patriarchy. It promotes the idea that human worth depends on productivity, economic success, absolute emotional control, and the ability to work endlessly, turning vulnerability, rest, community, and tenderness into signs of weakness. Beneath its rhetoric of discipline and power often lies a profound inability to relate healthily to pain, fragility, and human interdependence.
“That’s the grindset, brother. While weak men sleep and complain, sigma males stay disciplined, work in silence, suppress emotions, and build power while everyone else wastes time chasing comfort.”