Romantic attraction is difficult to define, as it is made up of many components. The two most distinguishable components are (
1) limerance, aka obsessive thoughts about wanting to be near one's
crush, to find out their interests, having a "butterflies in stomach" feeling, etc., and (2) a desire to form a romantic relationship, aka wanting to be another's
girlfriend/boyfriend/partner, to go on dates and do other romantic-coded activities (e.
g. kissing, although not everyone sees kissing as romantic, celebrating Valentine's Day), etc.
For alloromantic
people, limerance often leads to a desire to form a romantic relationship, but someone who identifies as grayromantic
may experience one without experiencing the other. An aromantic person does not experience romantic attraction. A quoiromantic person
may feel that the concept of romantic attraction is inapplicable, or they
may not be able to distinguish romantic attraction from other forms of attraction.