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'GOM' (girl over mates) is a noun that refers to a man who places the needs and requirements of his chosen female (girlfriend, f*ck buddy, wife etc.) before those of his friends. The term, in almost 100% of cases, is used in derogatory terms and is an insult of the highest order. Denying the pertaining to being a 'GOM' however is nigh-on impossible and is most often begrudgingly admitted and indeed adopted by the offender.

'GOMming', the accompanying verb to 'GOM', is the practice of spending time with said female. Originally, the term 'GOMming' was only used (again in inflammatory fashion) whence the 'GOM' in question was sacrificing spare time to entertain his ladyfriend in place of his friends. The term has since transgressed, and any time spent with a female, whether in place of time with his friends or not, is considered 'GOMming'.

In recent times, the terms 'GOM' and 'GOMming', due to their offensive magnitude, have become ongoing slurs towards those not currently offending but with a history of doing so. Scholars now maintain that being a 'GOM' or indeed 'GOMming' are not individual occurrences or practices, more a 'mindset, attitude, and a way of life'. The term is incredibly difficult to shake and has is known to cause sever psychological damage to those sullied by it's use.

Other uses include: GOM off, GOMming 'ell, GOMtastic, il GOMmeri (Italian), and GOMpig (used in only the most extreme circumstances).
Example 1:
Mattheu: "Chris are you out tonight"?
Chris: "Sorry Mattieu, I'm GOMming tonight".
Mattieu: "You fu*king waste. Lads! Chris can't come out tonight because he's GOMming".
Chris: "I'm out tomorrow night mate! The gf is on at the moment, gotta keep her sweet".
Mattieu: "I hope you catch clap you cretin".

Example 2:

Fred: "Wubble when on God's green Earth can we hang out?".
Wubble: "Soon my good man; I have been incredibly busy with work and my new football team".
Fred: "Any danger of you not GOMming for one minute?".
Wubble: "I'm not GOMming; Fred I've been single for nearly a year!".
Fred: "Once a GOM, always a GOM. You sicken me".
GOM by Wubblepig September 4, 2013
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In Ireland a Gom is a fool.
It comes from the Irish gamallóg, I imagine.
That man's a total gom.
gom by Gearóid Ó Laoi April 25, 2005
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BDSM sexual practice of G.O.M. "Glove Over Mouth" - placing a gloved hand over the mouth of someone during sex used for control and breath control. Typically, police search gloves are used but any type of glove can be a turn on.
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GOM by WOOFATL August 18, 2013
1. A dirty or untidy state of things or place

2. The act of spending time in trifling activities
1. "I really need to clean house, its such a gom."

2. " I am going to go out in the woods and gom around."
Gom by db cooper0009 June 21, 2018
verb (found mostly in Appalachia, transitive): to make disorderly, unclean, messy

Related to British word : gahm(v): to cover in grease
Lord, you young'uns have gommed up the whole damnedhouse!
gom by AppWill July 26, 2009
v. intr.

1. To act wastefully or foolishly

2. To make a mistake; bungle something.

n.

1. person who acts wastefully or fullishly.
"I'd let Matt give out directions for the party, but he'd gom it up for sure!"
GOM by Jarrod Lowe January 16, 2005