a term under the non-binary umbrella which defines a person who can not find a gender that fits them due to self doubt. no matter how much that gender fits them. even using the term ‘xumgender’ could be difficult for them. so they look up genders to see if they can find ‘the gender.’ this term is specifically used for ND (neurodivergent) people. as ND people have a different experience with this then NT (neurotypical) people.
by ell writes a lot September 25, 2021