Not to be mistaken with the typical femme, the "hard femme" describes herself as "queer", is political, looks more feminine than masculine, and if prompted, can kick some serious ass. She doesn't need to "wear the pants" in a relationship- the hard femme rules with a dress. She not only despises the gender binary, she works to dismantle it.
Misogynist Butch: "There she is! It's that femme I told you about that tried to wear one with me!"
(Not necessarily misogynist) Butch #2: You should've known better. That girl's got "hard femme" written all over her.
by Donny's dyke September 14, 2007
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