incongruent

a disconnect between the way a girl looks and the way she acts.

Vickie's good looks totally incongruent with her bad girl attitude.

incongruent by Copperwy April 8, 2017

gender incogruence

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a condition in which someone feels very strongly that the sex and gender assigned to them do not match their gender identity.
Similar to gender dysphoria.

Mike suffers from gender incogruence.

gender incogruence by possiblyprefect April 15, 2020