A timeless Pashtun proverb. Although frequently claimed by Spanish, French and British imperialists, the proverb is as French as the Egyptian Obelisk in Place de la Concorde Paris. Synonymous with Pashtun culture and a definitive illustration of "Pashtunwali" or the Pashtun code of conduct. Revenge is a part of life for the Afghan people.
The proverb states that revenge is best served with a clear mind, not when you are hot with anger.
guarantees the protection of the three Z's - Zan (woman), Zar
(gold or property}, and Zamin
(land). These are the most important assets to a Pashtun
, especially the women. Insulting, sexually harassing, or molesting a Pashtun
woman can mean ruin for the culprit and his family, as it's the most un-Pashtun act one can do. Violation of any of the three Z's can only be redressed by revenge taking (badlaa). A son can be killed for his father's crime, and vice-versa. This way, a single crime or act can lead to family feuds that may last generations. The phrase "Revenge is a dish best served cold" is of Pashtun
origin, borrowed by the British and popularised in the West. -Encyclopedia