1 definition by kickflare
The purest definition of asexual, is literally anti sexual. This means that they neither want or need sexual contact with another person to feel fulfilled.
However, some asexuals do want or even like sexual contact with their romantic partners. However, 95% of the time, it is solely for the benefit of their partners as many dislike sex or find little to no pleasure in the activity.
However, some asexuals do want or even like sexual contact with their romantic partners. However, 95% of the time, it is solely for the benefit of their partners as many dislike sex or find little to no pleasure in the activity.
This is my own history.
me: I am asexual
person: But you've had sex before...
me: yes. But that doesn't mean that I wanted it.
person: you mean it was rape?
me: No. It was for their benefit. Plus I wanted to know what a sexual relationship was like. I quickly figured out that I do not like or want sex.
person: oh... you're weird.
me: its not weird, it's just unusual.
Person: were you abused ?
Me: sigh. Not before I worked out I was asexual.
person: you frigid then?
Me: are you stupid? No. I'm okay to have sex with my romantic partner if they really want it. For me, it does NOTHING.
person: then why do you have a romantic partner?
Me: because I am human and I like being able to have cuddles and kisses. I want a normal loving relationship, just without the sex.
Person: *now educated* oh... guess it makes things less of a headache with birth control and STDs then...
Me *slaps head*
me: I am asexual
person: But you've had sex before...
me: yes. But that doesn't mean that I wanted it.
person: you mean it was rape?
me: No. It was for their benefit. Plus I wanted to know what a sexual relationship was like. I quickly figured out that I do not like or want sex.
person: oh... you're weird.
me: its not weird, it's just unusual.
Person: were you abused ?
Me: sigh. Not before I worked out I was asexual.
person: you frigid then?
Me: are you stupid? No. I'm okay to have sex with my romantic partner if they really want it. For me, it does NOTHING.
person: then why do you have a romantic partner?
Me: because I am human and I like being able to have cuddles and kisses. I want a normal loving relationship, just without the sex.
Person: *now educated* oh... guess it makes things less of a headache with birth control and STDs then...
Me *slaps head*
by kickflare March 10, 2015