This is an overused idea in many popular sayings today. It's what starry-eyed lovers whisper as they gaze at an ocean sunset, what 8-year-olds shout to their mothers as they sprint toward the already departing morning bus heading for school, and what teenage lovers tell each other in the heat of the moment. It's supposed to be the deepest level of emotional connection between people, yet society has transformed it into a pop-icon phrase to be screened onto glittery fuchsia tank tops and written inside Hallmark cards with pastel bunnies and butterflies dancing on the cover. The phrase, of course, is “I love you.” Love has become such as complex emotion, to the extent of which we are uncertain what it truly signifies and when it is the “real thing”.
A black and white movie, Titanic, a happily ever after and spontaneous trips to exotic destinations with your significant other, is what love signifies for a large part of the population. Everyone wants to be in love. It’s the way the universe tells us who we belong with forever and ever. Nothing could be more exciting and passionate. Our society considers falling in love to be one of the most, if not the most adventurous endeavor that can be taken on. Falling in love is very much like being faced with crashing waves of emotions and then suddenly discovering that the shore is sometimes rocky.
If a person says that they love you, they mean that they like you for who you are now and they fell in love with you because of the present you. This kind of love is temporary and will only last as long as any fairytale would. However, when we wake from the dream and are forced to set aside our views of romanticism, we are confronted with the reality of our situation: Love is not always what we imagine it to be.
But if a person says they love you, one can assume that they mean that they love you unconditionally for who you are now, who you were you in the past and who you might be in the future. When they say they love you and really mean it, you have to ask yourself if you love them too or if you are only in love with the idea of “being in love”. It is very hard to see the difference through logical thinking. These thoughts are sometimes the reason for a relationship going sour.
In seeing how complex love is, we understand that although it is important to love, it is also easy to lose yourself in emotions and therefore lose sense of reality. The longing for a destiny is nowhere stronger than in our romantic life. We are forced at times to share a life with those who cannot possibly fathom our soul. Can we not be forgiven if we believe ourselves fated to stumble one day upon the man or woman of our dreams? We all have these yearnings and long for our soulmate. Many are willing to give up their life for the one they love, while others simply do not place any value into love. Felix Adler, a German philosopher, said it best: “Love is the expansion of two natures in such fashion that each include the other, each is enriched by the other.” Isn’t that what we all look for in life?
Love is an incredibly powerful word. When you're in love, you always want to be together, and when you're not, you're thinking about being together because you need that person and without them your life is incomplete.
This love is unconditional affection with no limits or conditions: completely loving someone. It's when you trust the other with your life and when you would do anything for each other. When you love someone you want nothing more than for them to be truly happy no matter what it takes because that's how much you care about them and because their needs come before your own. You hide nothing of yourself and can tell the other anything because you know they accept you just the way you are and vice versa.
It's when they're the last thing you think about before you go to sleep and when they're the first thing you think of when you wake up, the feeling that warms your heart and leaves you overcome by a feeling of serenity. Love involves wanting to show your affection and/or devotion to each other. It's the smile on your face you get when you're thinking about them and miss them.
Love can make you do anything and sacrifice for what will be better in the end. Love is intense,and passionate. Everything seems brighter, happier and more wonderful when you're in love. If you find it, don't let it go.
That word is love.
2.) A feeling that will not be returned to me...
You have great chemistry:
You get lost in your conversations, and the hours pass like minutes. You're more than willing to listen to her when she talks about her day. The chemistry between you is remarkable.
You find her beautiful:
Even if you catch her with no makeup on and her hair pulled back while she's unclogging a toilet, she still looks beautiful to you.
You want to spend time with her:
All you want to do is to be with her, whether you're having sex or not. Even if she tells you that sex will have to wait, you don't care.
You see a future together:
You experience the strange feeling that your life would be totally empty without her. You tell your friends and family that she may be The One, and you're even thinking about marrying her.
You introduce her to your family:
It becomes very important to you that your parents like her, and that she gets along with everyone close to you.
You include her in all your plans:
Whether you're going out with your male friends or taking your dog for a walk, you want her there with you. And if she's not there, you can't get her off your mind and sneak off to give her a quick "I miss you" phone call. Of course, you don't tell your buddies.
You are more romantic:
All of a sudden you find yourself listening to cheesy romantic songs and thinking of her. You send her flowers and love notes to work and set up romantic evenings candlelit dinners at home.
You always take her side:
If someone says anything even slightly disparaging about her, you immediately rise to her defense. Furthermore, in social gatherings, you always agree with her even if you disagree behind closed doors.
She makes you want to be a better man:
She challenges and motivates you. She makes you happy, and you'd do anything to make her happy.