Occasionally when I meet a woman I know would be an excellent friend I ask myself the question " why me ? ", dry up and do not have an open conversation with her. I then find myself jtc and querying her background through very bad sources. Any men who stop to read this definition of jtc please take some good advice, learnt from hard experience, and always have open conversations with any new women who you feel may play a major role in your lives. It is very difficult to get a new friendship going a second time although being a persistent so and so I may yet succeed but for others please take the above advice to heart and do not follow my example.