A "friend" a "bad friend" who cares only about themselves. A friend who gets their way no matter the cost, and who they step on along the way. One might stay in a "frenemy" situation because they are fearful of this person. Or they are oblivious to the reality of the situation. A good way to spot “frenemies” is to judge reactions if they don’t get their own way. A frenemy will be in the wrong and wait for you to apologise. They will defriend you on social media and bitch about you, your life and most importantly your relationship behind your back with anyone who will listen. They will be mean to you or lay guilt trips to get their own way. These “frenemies” cannot stand to see you happy without them and are worried they will never have something special like you have. There is jealousy at the root of everything they do and they project a lot of hate towards other people in your life. They will interfere in your relationships and say that they are acting in your best interests. This is a lie. These are also known as a toxic friendship. If something is toxic it needs to be cut away.
Classic example 1: when your best friend ruins your relationship because they have their own selfish agenda.

Classic example 2: frenemy will bad mouth your relationship and even lie about your significant other because they know what to say to break it up and keep you to themselves
by jc231092 April 01, 2013
A person who is both a friend and an enemy. They can both cause one's demise and brighten one's day. Keep your friends close, your enemies closer and your frenemies right by your side.
My roommate was a frenemy: she would leave a sink full of dishes but she always ensured the fridge was stocked with beer.
by ajfajn October 03, 2011
A person (or entity) that will utilize you (your skill sets and possibly networked financial structure, too). This person may or may not be a sociopath (i.e.: may think that they really are the greatest, and thus will not recognize that they are in the wrong and not treating you the way you deserve to be treated). This person may also have extreme jealousy- wanting what you have, or trying to replicate what you are- in their mirrored image. This person may have very low self-esteem (thus they are consistently badmouthing or excluding others- in fear of their own social clout being shaken, and their own reputation being shifted). This person will make money off of you- through your network. This person will demoralize you- to make themselves feel better. This person will critique your decisions and lifestyle- to reaffirm that their existence is status quo. This person will ask you to stop speaking with other people, in fear that they will be found out. This person will tell you not to work with other people- because they have screwed up, and they do not want the truth to be known. This person is doing whatever it takes to get ahead in their own world.
Don't talk to him- he is a frenemy and wants your client portfolio!
by KalliBeth July 10, 2015
Someone you love to hate
"Why do you hang around with that kid?"
"I don't, he's just my frenemy."
"I enjoy treating him like shit."
by -Special Ed- January 01, 2010

We're basically en route to war with them, but they're so essential to our everyday lives we can do nothing about it.

We can't live without little plastic cars.

From the Colbert Report with Stephen Colbert.
China's our frenemy. They're communists, but they stabilize our economy
by stikshift June 05, 2007
A person who is your friend but acts like your enemy.
Your Friend: "OMG that is such a terrible skirt, seriously do you mean to turn guys off or is it just your off fahsion style?"
You: "Have you noticed that you are such a frenemy?"
by Honeylade August 21, 2006
Your enemy who's also a friend.
Kitty Pryde is on the X-Men and Lance Alvers is on the Brotherhood. They're on opposite teams, thus making them enemies but they're still friends....Therefore they are each others frenemy.
by CountryGurl2286 June 10, 2008
a word used, usually in tabloids, to describe two people, usually famous people, who are enemies in the press and friends in real life or vice versa, generally a technique used simply to gain publicity.
lindsay lohan:omg look we're on the cover of US weekly AGAIN!!
paris hilton:omigod lindsay this frenemy thing is doing wonders for our image
by sarahhhhhhhhhhhhh May 20, 2007

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