A short version of the definition of BPD:
In general, people with BPD feel worthless, empty, moody, needy, depressed, and have difficulty managing their emotions. They have trouble with boundaries--both their own and respecting others. They are looking for that all-loving "other" who will provide the unconditional love they cannot give themselves.
BPs often act inconsistently, act impulsively in ways they later regret, see other as either all good or all bad, and base their beliefs on feelings instead of facts. Borderlines are people in pain.
BPs commonly manage their intense pain in two ways: they act in or act out. BPs who act in may mutilate themselves, make suicide attempts, express self-hate, or seek outpatient or inpatient therapy.
Other BPs manage their pain by trying to foist it on others. They blame loved ones for all their problems, criticize, make unfair accusations, act emotionally or physically abusive, put others in no-won situations, and use emotional blackmail to get the love they need.
A longer, clinical definition of BPD used by clinicians:
The DSM-IV diagnostic criteria for borderline personality disorder reads as follows:
A pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image, and affects moods
, and marked impulsivity beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or...
A mental illness where a person cannot control their own emotions.
This means that you feel like shit for literally no reason, and you lack the ability to stop it.
Naturally, this results in the afflicted individual engaging in whatever behaviors they find necessary to alleviate their pain.
This, in turn, makes them appear crazy to the outside world.
Borderlines are notoriously frustrating to work with. The thing that people seem to forget is that if they are frustrated with us, we are infinitely more frustrated with ourselves.
Treatment is available. The vast majority of borderlines recover with Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT).
Commonly comorbid with depression
I was glad to find out that I had Borderline Personality Disorder because I could finally find words to explain the way I felt... until I realized that I had BPD. Oh, fuck.
The ultimate 'Frienemy' & 'Emotional trainwreck'
Sufferers of BPD are insecure, in need of social approval and cannot handle criticism (suffers include popular & charismatic people). BPD sufferers are 'frenemies' because they often try to make themselves feel better by putting down friends/family & drag them into their own self inflicted dramas. When friends/family (rightly) try to intervene it is typically interpreted as a personal attack/criticism which often results in a explosive reaction, BPD sufferers will blame everyone but themselves for their situation and will run away from their problems (sometimes literally) and will turn to alcohol/substance abuse and even self harm as it is seen as a quick way out of their current situation.
Although you wouldn't know it, the BPD suffers do actually feel shame for the drama they cause, but instead of changing their behaviour or seeking help they often only end up trying to run away from that doing more severe self-destructive behaviour eventually, for example: running away for the evening becomes sleeping the night rough, binge drinking becomes drug abuse, eating disorders becomes actual attempts on their own lives (i.e. overdose). It's a vicious circle which harms everyone caught in with the BPD sufferer.
Borderline Personality Disorder sufferer walks out of job, you try to encourage him to get his job back. He'll berate you and try to put you down, while getting drunk on your money at the bar, when you stand up to him he'll threaten you if you still don't back down he'll run away disappear for a week and hope everyone is too worried to bring up the topic. A few months down the line he does something stupid again and the pattern repeats getting slightly worse eachtime.
A condition where one is not broken, but forever in need of being fixed.
And there is nothing anyone can ever do.
You will always feel this way.
Fuck borderline personality disorder. Fuck examples. You are a bitch.
an excuse for grown-ups to act emo.
Patient: My life's so hard, my girlfriend threatened to leave me because she thought I was full of self-pity, and so I self-harmed. I'm so misunderstood!
Doctor: Hmm it seems that you have a case of being an Emo teenager
Patient: But I am 26!
Doctor: Oh! My mistake, you must have Borderline Personality Disorder
A bullshit label that is slapped on to undeserving individuals when loved ones and therapists don't know how to deal with them. Behaviors that can cause you to be burdened with this label include: being sensitive, cutting, eating disorders, strong emotions, throwing tantrums, being suicidal, and just being a normal teenager. My sister's boyfriend told me that most people who truely have this are locked away in a nutward
. Personally, I refer to this as borderline bullshit disorder because it is just how it sounds, complete bullshit.
I hid my stepmom
's book on how to deal with someone with borderline personality disorder.