(n) 1. a woman who practices BDSM in everyday life; a woman who controls her partner mentally and physically, usually in a sexual way. Vanilla people categorize this type of lifestyle as kinky. The Dominatrix is stereotypically pictured as wearing stilleto boots, black leather outfit, and hold a whip.
2. a woman who gets paid to control a person, usually in a sexual way.
A female dom that orders the sub to do such things as rub her feet, massage her back and legs, etc. The dom controls when, where, and how the sub reaches gratification...or doesn't reach it as the case may be. As is typical, the sub must do whatever the dom requires. This type of role play generally does not include any forms of punishment or pain but is instead based on the dom just completely controlling the situation for her maximum enjoyment.
"First I had my sub buy me dinner and then rub my feet. Then, I had him bring me to climax with a toy. Only then did I allow him to pleasure himself while I watched. What a great night! I love being a Soft Dominatrix because I get what I want how I want it!"