Thanks for your interest in this word, which is rapidly spreading throughout transitional and post-conflict countries, carried proudly by expatriates determined to achieve sustainable development and cross-sector linkages.
A "SADDIE" (and it must always be in all-caps) is easier to recognize than to define. The term has its origins in Chicago in the early 1990s, when a friend of a friend used to go to the gay sauna "Unicorn" (now "Steamworks") and observe particularly "sad" looking older men, waiting in private cabins with the doors open for someone to come in and "play" with them. This person began calling these guys SADDIES, and my friend took the term to Kiev, Ukraine in 1995 when he arrived there on a USAID technical assistance project. (I joined the same project in 1996, and my partner and I stayed there until 2002.)
Our friends and I began to notice a common phenomenon in Kiev: older, unattractive Western consultants hanging out with beautiful young Ukrainian women. You know the type -- bald head, pot belly, beet-red face from too much drinking over too many years -- who are suddenly hot commodities in these distant lands. It then goes to their heads. They carry the attitude of their being hot commodities into the workplace, where they are rude to the local staff, contemptuous of counterparts, and cutthroat with each other. We started calling them SADDIES (spoken in a loud whisper, with a "hissing" sound). .
But soon, it became apparent that SADDIE was not really a function of age, body type, national origin, presence or absence of alcoholism, or even sex. It was really dependent on the attitude. The attitudinal characteristics of SADDIES are the following:
1) Exaggerated sense of one's self-importance in a country, on a project, in a community, etc.
2) Condescension or a "colonial attitude" toward local residents of the country.
3) A viewpoint that more money entitles one to better and more frequent sex, and that the local residents should automatically be impressed by that. This is manifested by pretending to be interested in "friendship" with the locals, when sex is really the main object.
4) Extreme hypocrisy, such as praising locals in public but belittling them in private, or criticizing other expatriates for faults displayed by oneself.
5) Disinterest in the actual situation or peculiarities of the country in question -- "it's just another country and just another job."
6) And, most important, not recognizing SADDIE behavior in oneself, or thinking that there's nothing wrong with it.
It should be clear from this explanation that one can be a woman and still be a SADDIE; indeed, one can be young and attractive and intelligent and still be a SADDIE. My partner and I observed countless SADDIES in our almost 4 years in Kabul, Afghanistan and 6.5 years in Kiev, but they exist everywhere -- people can be SADDIES even in their own countries.
And since we all display SADDIE behavior from time to time, you get credit for recognizing it in yourself. In other words, the more you accuse yourself of being a SADDIE, the less you probably are.
A "SADDIE" (and it must always be in all-caps) is easier to recognize than to define. The term has its origins in Chicago in the early 1990s, when a friend of a friend used to go to the gay sauna "Unicorn" (now "Steamworks") and observe particularly "sad" looking older men, waiting in private cabins with the doors open for someone to come in and "play" with them. This person began calling these guys SADDIES, and my friend took the term to Kiev, Ukraine in 1995 when he arrived there on a USAID technical assistance project. (I joined the same project in 1996, and my partner and I stayed there until 2002.)
Our friends and I began to notice a common phenomenon in Kiev: older, unattractive Western consultants hanging out with beautiful young Ukrainian women. You know the type -- bald head, pot belly, beet-red face from too much drinking over too many years -- who are suddenly hot commodities in these distant lands. It then goes to their heads. They carry the attitude of their being hot commodities into the workplace, where they are rude to the local staff, contemptuous of counterparts, and cutthroat with each other. We started calling them SADDIES (spoken in a loud whisper, with a "hissing" sound). .
But soon, it became apparent that SADDIE was not really a function of age, body type, national origin, presence or absence of alcoholism, or even sex. It was really dependent on the attitude. The attitudinal characteristics of SADDIES are the following:
1) Exaggerated sense of one's self-importance in a country, on a project, in a community, etc.
2) Condescension or a "colonial attitude" toward local residents of the country.
3) A viewpoint that more money entitles one to better and more frequent sex, and that the local residents should automatically be impressed by that. This is manifested by pretending to be interested in "friendship" with the locals, when sex is really the main object.
4) Extreme hypocrisy, such as praising locals in public but belittling them in private, or criticizing other expatriates for faults displayed by oneself.
5) Disinterest in the actual situation or peculiarities of the country in question -- "it's just another country and just another job."
6) And, most important, not recognizing SADDIE behavior in oneself, or thinking that there's nothing wrong with it.
It should be clear from this explanation that one can be a woman and still be a SADDIE; indeed, one can be young and attractive and intelligent and still be a SADDIE. My partner and I observed countless SADDIES in our almost 4 years in Kabul, Afghanistan and 6.5 years in Kiev, but they exist everywhere -- people can be SADDIES even in their own countries.
And since we all display SADDIE behavior from time to time, you get credit for recognizing it in yourself. In other words, the more you accuse yourself of being a SADDIE, the less you probably are.
by middle_east_explorer September 28, 2008
Relates to sorry but was made up by me and my friends when we were hammered and is used like sorry but in a way that is meant to beak the person you are saying it to.
When Larry was pissed off that I was eating a Peanut Butter bar in the back of his car I said Saddy !!
by Cunt Grinder 20 November 4, 2010
A couple name; A Sam that loves an Addie. An Addie that loves a Sam. Together they are Saddie and are extremely self-obsessed.
by Saddie123 June 25, 2013
by puthinator4life November 18, 2018
A disgustingly cute couple... Always cuddling and being disgustingly adorable.. Their friends hate to love them, but they are so damn cute its hard not to love them..
That British guy and that girl who believes she is a mermaid is such a 'Saddie" couple...
I hate them..
okay no I don't...
But there so disgustingly cute... UGHHH
I hate them..
okay no I don't...
But there so disgustingly cute... UGHHH
by Oh that one chick October 10, 2013
When you're sad and broke but you are a sugar daddy anyway because you keep giving your money away to spoil someone
It's kinda like when you want to call someone a baddie but they ain't a baddie, they a saddy
It's kinda like when you want to call someone a baddie but they ain't a baddie, they a saddy
"My bf and i are broke but he won't stop gifting me things i said i wanted"
"Omg, he's such a sugar saddy"
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"I will buy you anything you want even though I barely have any money and i have to work very hard for it, but i'm doing it for you to be happy"
"you're a sugar saddy"
"Omg, he's such a sugar saddy"
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"I will buy you anything you want even though I barely have any money and i have to work very hard for it, but i'm doing it for you to be happy"
"you're a sugar saddy"
by sugarsaddy March 18, 2021
by Omg 37483883 August 31, 2015