Contrary to the negative definitions. A Hot Mess is a person that can be a funny, whitted, not trend style dressed person. She/He can hold their humor even when in the worst/most awkward of circumstances just to make others laugh.
Meaning: They are just "somthin' else!" Crazy, whacky, odd, funn, out going, they could care less about what they look like to other people. The General Shit talkers attitude or no shit takers. Could be an atractive person, but to a Hot mess, who cares because they just don't care about impressions and looks ans long as it's a funny one.
Punkin: Girl what you doing? Get Off here-lol!
Kel: Hows about I come over their and get on you!
Punkin: ROTFLMAO Girl You a Hot Mess!
Kel: I know. Hows work?
Punkin: Still stuck here.
Kel: 3 more mis and your work day is over. have a good night!
Punkin: You too girl.
bro: Damn girl you lookin fine, why don't you hop in my ride and we'll go put some cavssia on ice.
Me: Bro you are out yo mind. I know what you diggin' your sliz nizzle in my tacizzle hommie. No can do! I've gotta man that keeps me satisfied 24 hrs a day, 7 days a week. I don't need nona dat creepin around my what what or you starin at my butt nut.
bro: lol Girl you a Hot mess.
Me: I know bro.