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(from snail mail)

(v.) to send (a letter, card, or package) via physical mail; to mail or post (a tangible object) using a postal service. Bills and junk mail are perhaps the most common items snailed, but people snail personal letters and items as well.
I snailed my aunt a CD of Richard Clayderman, her favorite pianist.
by Grinning Cat December 27, 2011
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The rules for "acting like a man"; the mentality, behaviors and restrictions that many men and boys are socialized to conform to. These tenets of the "cult of masculinity" are both symptoms and enablers of Dominator Culture. They can be so pervasive as to be almost invisible; yet they lead men to disrespect, mistreat, and abuse women and each other.

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THE MAN BOX

Demonstrate power/control (especially over women)

Aggression - Dominance - yell - intimidate

Do not cry openly or express emotions (except for anger)

Do not express weakness or fear - "take it"

Don't back down - don't make mistakes

Do not be "like a woman"

Heterosexual

Have lots of sex with women - "conquests"

Do not be "like a gay man"

Tough/Athletic/Competitive/Strength/Courage

Make Decisions - Never ask for help

Women viewed as property/objects (especially sexual objects)
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(Based largely on Tony Porter's TED talk "A Call to Men")
This is the love of my life, my daughter Jay. The world I envision for her -- how do I want men to be acting and behaving? ... I need you working with me and me working with you on how we raise our sons and teach them to be men -- that it's okay to not be dominating, that it's okay to have feelings and emotions, that it's okay to promote equality, that it's okay to have women who are just friends and that's it, that it's okay to be whole, that my liberation as a man is tied to your liberation as a woman.

I remember asking a nine-year-old boy ... "What would life be like for you, if you didn't have to adhere to this man box?" He said to me, "I would be free."
by Grinning Cat March 29, 2013
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A politician who's clueless about the First Amendment.

This Frederick County council member threatened to sue The Frederick News-Post in January 2015 for putting his name in the paper without authorization, thus lending his name to "delauter" and "Delauterism".
"Use my name again unauthorized and you'll be paying for an Attorney. Your rights stop where mine start."
(Kirby Delauter, in a Facebook comment) http : // media.utsandiego.com/img/photos/2015/01/06/Kirby_Delauter_t540.jpg

"... Kirby Delauter has no case. ..."
("Kirby Delauter, Kirby Delauter, Kirby Delauter", FNP editorial that gloriously mentions the name Kirby Delauter 30 times, posted Tuesday, January 6, 2015) http : // www.fredericknewspost.com/news/politics_and_government/kirby-delauter-kirby-delauter-kirby-delauter/article_da85d6f4-fa3c-524f-bbf6-8e5ddc0d1c0a.html?mode=story
by Grinning Cat January 7, 2015
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All hail our crustacean Lord and Savior™!
"I believe... that all things on this earth were created... by GOD!
And I don't mean Jesus. And I don't mean Buddha. And I don't mean Allah.
And I don't mean some general god that we can all rally around and believe in.
I mean my god, my town, and my church.
My god is a fire-breathing lobster who lives behind the rings of Saturn.
And his name is Jibbers Crabst."

(Matt Inman, keynote speaker at BAHFest West 2014)
by Grinning Cat April 7, 2015
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A person who enjoys sex like a man but will be shamed or ridiculed for it because they're a woman.

See also: double standard, hypocrisy
That definition comes from a bumper sticker by sexologist Dr. Jill McDevitt, www.thesexologist.org

Also consider that there's no masculine equivalent to this common use of "slut". Men are instead admired for wanting and having lots of sex!
by Grinning Cat November 6, 2013
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