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selfing
the act of saying something ridiculous, with absolute self-righteousness behind it, only further proving how much of an idiot the person actually is.
can also be used as a verb - self'd
can also be used as a verb - self'd
selfing by grooveflapper October 21, 2007
Selfing
Selfing by Essex Grub May 15, 2005
Selfing
verb - when a person acts for one’s self and/or one’s people as best one can with the tools available with neither selfless or selfish intentions thereby removing positive and negative connotations from the choices made and thereby creating a third option which takes relativism into account. Selfing is the process by which one pursues their personal and community well-being while functioning in social and physical life that does not ignore large and same scale ethical challenges as one tries to do the best they can with the tools available to them.
Ex1: “It blows my mind how much I've said no to people who've asked me to help with things or give them things these last few months but selfing like this has helped me get back to who I was before I got into that bad relationship."
Ex2: “Yeah I’m selfing right now with all the money I'm saving from my job and budgeting to stay on top of things so my living situation is almost at the point where I’ll never have to worry about not having a place to stay ever again and I’m even getting a good work/life balance; if my parents would just stop calling me every single day, every other is enough mom. ”
Ex3: "Sometimes I can't believe I keep the rent paid, the utilities and internet connected, food on my family's table and my medical insurance up to date and can still go out and have fun with my job and budget while I navigate the confusing world of end stage capitalism and try and find a balance within my ethics and but I think I'm being pretty decent at selfing so far.”
Ex2: “Yeah I’m selfing right now with all the money I'm saving from my job and budgeting to stay on top of things so my living situation is almost at the point where I’ll never have to worry about not having a place to stay ever again and I’m even getting a good work/life balance; if my parents would just stop calling me every single day, every other is enough mom. ”
Ex3: "Sometimes I can't believe I keep the rent paid, the utilities and internet connected, food on my family's table and my medical insurance up to date and can still go out and have fun with my job and budget while I navigate the confusing world of end stage capitalism and try and find a balance within my ethics and but I think I'm being pretty decent at selfing so far.”
Selfing by dancinbutterfly February 17, 2019
Selfing
To comment on a post with something completely unrelated, and attempting to change the focus to yourself.
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