Generally someone who *happens* to pass by your
house when they get the urge to "see" you. This
person is slightly deranged and/or deluded & have created a fantasy life in their heads with you, the object of desire as their main focus. They believe you are their soul mate. Borderline stalking behaviour includes frequent online stalking.
Borderline stalkers are surprisingly very apt at hiding their rampant obsessions when they
fear getting caught by others. They will go to all kinds of lengths to hide their disproportionate feelings when necessary which can
even lead to them being cruel.
A borderline stalker is typically a very lonely
person with some psychological issues. This type of stalker almost always has a crushing
fear of true intimacy; they deliberately seek to "love from a distance". They unconciously pick partners that are unsuitable for them or already unavailable for *romantic pickings*. They
may not
even have a genuine desire for a real relationship with you - it might be a sexual obsession for instance.Many potential stalkers suffer from some kind of personality disorder such as Schizoid Personality Disorder.
many Borderline Stalkers are driven by
fear of abandonment. They refuse to deal with the external
reality of rejection by replacing it with a strong inner fantasy life of maladaptive daydreaming and inner dialogues = a 'Fantasy Prone Personality'. They are painfully indecisive about taking action in his/her life. Their worst
fear is rejection.
For Example:
A borderline stalker is akin to a secret admirer, they always seem to be in the background of your life like a wallflower.
They are skilled at making their borderline stalking behaviour seem like a coincidence.
"
Harry always has lunch at the same time as me in the cafeteria... Sometimes he follows me to class too. He watches me
eat and slurp my slurpy. I am sure he is sexually aroused... what a borderline stalker!"
Genuine/Garden Variety Stalker: "Alicia and I have been
broken up for 4 years but she still calls and breathes down the
phone. It is so freaky. She even leaves empty
beer cans on my front doorstep with notes attached to them like *see what you're missing out on*"
